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Posted 10/15/2014 2:35 PM (GMT 0)
Why i always link everything with my idea that im stupid and incapable and not good enough? Why? I just finished an exam and i know i didnt go so well,also other people didn't go well but I feel stupid and discouraged,that i will never be able to pass. In the past i've proved to myself that this is just an idea and i am able to do everything but now i feel so sad. I have anxiety, and i think it interferes with my ability to think clearly during exam,like today i had some questions which i knew i studied but i couldn't remember,also it was hard to read a question because i couldn't concentrate. I think i need to go back to therapy again and deep inside me im postponing because i believe that i should be able to handle things by myself. Im so dissapointed with my self. Im in a constant doubt about my abilities and myself itself and its such a torture. What can i do? How can i stop it?
Posted 10/15/2014 2:46 PM (GMT 0)
I think your idea of therapy is a good one. There is nothing wrong with needing a little help and direction. I had the same problem as you with tests. The anxiety would get in the way. Maybe a tutor could help you learn to study and remember things.

Depression does get in the way at times. But things can get better. Follow through with the therapy. I think it is a good idea...

Hope you feel better soon...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 10/15/2014 4:59 PM (GMT 0)
www.buzzle.com/articles/cognitive-behavioral-therapy-cbt-techniques.html

www.lowselfhelpsystems.org/system/our-method-about-cbt.asp


Jeoch, so nice to see you back. Talking about these things always helps. Knowing you are not alone and that you have support is sometimes 1/2 the battle.

I have list 2 CBT sites for you. This method is easy once you practice it for a while and it lets YOU control the negative looping thoughts that run in your head. I USE THIS MYSELF WITH SUCCESS MOST OF THE TIME.

Therapy with a councelor is also a VERY good idea.

Peace
Trina
Posted 10/15/2014 6:40 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Jeoch...I just wanted to lend my support to you, as the posters before me have given your excellent guidance.  Breathe...Be good to yourself and get the help you feel you need.  We're here for you=)

HUGS~~Dixie

Posted 10/15/2014 8:36 PM (GMT 0)
Im just sitting all alone,overthinking,catastrophizing and crying. I feel pathetic. Why can't i just be happy? I feel so lonely and unprotected,i always have.My head is a mess.

**Thank you for being there.
Posted 10/15/2014 8:45 PM (GMT 0)
You cannot afford the "luxury" of staying inside your head...Get out now, physically and go for a walk...PLEASE.  If nothing else, count your steps as you walk until it becomes easier.  Then distract yourself with all that is around you.  Turn off all devices that are delivering the "Chicken Little" theory of the SKY IS FALLING...which is everything and everywhere right now.

I often tell myself when faced with catastrophic thinking...What's the worst thing that could happen?  I guess a normal person (unlike me) would respond "death".  I disagree.  You see, IMO we are all technically "dying" from the point of birth. Life is what we make it.  Make yourself get out of your head and on the move.

You're no longer alone.  We're here.

~~Dixie

Posted 10/15/2014 10:32 PM (GMT 0)
I had the SAME problems with test anxiety and... low self confidence. To this day I second guess myself but am working on this issue in therapy right now!

I agree with Dixie- you cannot afford to stay in your head with the negative thoughts. Trina gave you great links. I'm looking at them now myself.

Getting outside in fresh air and nature is underrated. Please try it. Put your phone on silent or take it & take your earbuds & listen to your favorite music. I personally have learned to enjoy nature sounds.

This negative self talk is going to take daily practice. It won't stop overnight, so cut yourself some slack while starting. Start small. I personally have positive affirmations posted to my bathroom mirror! You could put them in your car, your backpack, wherever. I also go to positive websites like mindbodygreen.com or tinybuddah.com. I've also "liked" a bunch of inspirational pages on Facebook so my news feed is filled with mostly these sites. Also, writing 3 things you're grateful for in a journal, on a daily basis. 3 different things everyday. It's easy.

Remember practice makes perfect. I know you're struggling but this can absolutely be overcome if you're willing to do just a tiny amt of work daily. Make positive habits.

What we put out in the world comes back to us so make sure its positive. It's the Law of Attraction.

Keep posting here too. We'll help you through your rough patch!

Sending hugs!
Lisa
Posted 10/17/2014 2:06 PM (GMT 0)
Hello..I kind of feel better but still feeling bad and anxious. In these times i find it very hard to deal with dad's absence (he passed away 9 years ago) when i was 12. I never got over it. I still think about it suddenly and i start cry. I've been in therapy,talked about it,re-exprienced it but its still so hard. I have all those images in my head,and i miss him so much.I wish i could just talked to him,even for just one last time.
Posted 10/17/2014 3:15 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry about your dad. I lost mine 6 years ago.

Are you seeing a therapist?

Cornell posted this quote by author Anne Lamott awhile back & it really touched me. I hope it can help you somehow too.

"You will lose someone you can’t live without,and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp."

Sending hugs ♥️

Liss
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