Hi, I'm Admere

I am new here, and I don't know where to start. I'm so overwhelmed. I was diagnosed with depression during my first pregnancy 19 years ago. I was treated and did very well for a long time. Then I got hit with several major crises at once. Bottom line, I am in crisis. I'm not a danger to myself or anyone else, but I need to know there are other people feeling what I feel and going through what I'm going through. I suspect there's some anxiety tied up in this, as well. My husband moved out in November. My apartment deteriorated to the point it was filthy and cluttered enough I may be evicted, though I've spent the last 5 days cleaning like someone possessed. I'm scared, and I'm not doing well. My children are stressed because I'm stressed and I would never want to cause them a moment of pain. I have an appointment tomorrow with a psychologist. I think I'll need medication again so that might not be a good fit but I need to start somewhere, right? Please, someone tell me this isn't uncommon??

Hi Admere,

I am sorry that everything seems to be happening at once. I hope you get the apartment cleaned up enough so you don't get evicted.

You aren't alone, thing sometimes happen this way. It gets overwhelming, I think only to let you know that you could use a little help. I am glad you are going to see a psychologist. It is a good place to start.

Try to calm yourself. Try to relax. You will get things done. I am sure it lit a fire under you. You would be surprised at how much you can get done under pressure. Pace yourself though. Try not to over do. Take some time out and relax.

Try to reassure your kids that things are going to work out. Don't let them stress over adult things.

Know you are a good person. Things will work out the way that they should. Now and again we have situations in life. We can handle them in our own ways. We all use different ways to cope.

I hope that everything gets better. Welcome to the forum. Keep posting, as it helps to have somebody to hear what you have to say. Have a good day...

Hugs, Karen...

Look on the good, rather than the bad. You had some problems with the apartment, and you cleaned up and straightened it out. You are talking with a doctor soon who will help you, and give you much needed support. You were on a downward path, but now you have discovered it and are trying to turn it around.

For every "Oh, no" moment out there, there is a "good job" moment. There is not just a single side of a coin--it there is one side, then it follows there must be another. Each 'true' event has a direct opposite. When we are depressed, we idle into the bad places, and take up residence. But, sometimes, just the reminder that we can re-phrase everything we think and say is ENORMOUSLY beneficial.

"Oh, no, the medication I might be prescribed might not be a good fit."

"Wow, I might be prescribed medication that might help me see things more clearly."

And I am not even getting into the "might be" versus the "is".

Stop, take a breath, and flip that negative, that worry, that fear.

Welcome!

Hello and welcome! I just recently went back on antidepressants myself. Things just got a bit overwhelming for me. I deal with chronic pain and my adult daughter has been diagnosed with Cushing's Disease and will need surgery. Keeping the house up with everything else going on is not easy. I totally hear you.

See the doctor. Get the help you need. Get your kids to help clean up the home! If you need to take a 'mental health break' set a kitchen timer for 15 minutes, go ahead and cry or whatever, but when the timer goes off, get back to 'work'. I've used this method repeatedly some days. It has never failed me.

Keep coming. Keep posting. You are NOT alone!

Hi and welcome! It does seem like problems like to dog pile us. You can get so overwhelmed that you are just paralyzed. You are taking steps, though. It won't always be overwhelming.

I'm a single mom, too. My kids are 10 and 8. They really do sense how we are. I don't know how old your kids are. In my struggle I have tried to be open with my kids. They understand that I get sad and that its not because of them. I've found that making my depression an open topic that they feel more secure.

With your cleaning process, try to break it into manageable chunks so that you don't get overwhelmed. The best thing you can do is set realistic goals.

You are doing exactly what you need to do. You are setting a good example for your children. You will get through this.