Posted 4/15/2015 5:46 PM (GMT 0)
Hey. I haven’t written anything on this site for some time. I wrote some last year and you can read my story on the entry page.
Basically, I have had no contact with my depressed ex girlfriend for 8-9 months.
Then in the beginning of march, I reached out to her.
In the last months we have had some interaction. I just thought I would ask for some advice on what to write back (if anything at all).
This is our convo:
Me:
"Hey, I am thinking about you and hope that you are taking care of yourself. I know it's not in my place to interfere, but just wanted to say that I care about hope you are feeling and that if you ever need something that I can give, then I'm here. Take care, XX"
Her:
"Hello. I'm fine, so do not worry. Hope you feel good too. XX"
Me:
“What good to hear. I will not intrude more than what I have already done if you do not like it, just wanted to say that I am grateful for your response and I'm glad to hear that you are well. Take care of yourself XX. You are worth the finest.”
Her (long):
“Have thought many times about writing a few lines to you. Nothing with you have gone past me cold. I want you to know that. It hurts to think that you might think that I never bothered, or that I have not answered your feelings, for that’s not how it is, and I hope you do not fallen into self-doubt over my cold and radio silence.
Even if your actions angered me, I'm sorry I reacted as I did, I really know you meant well, and the more months passed, the more I understand that your actions come from a sincere place, of consideration.
I do not think it's healthy for either you or me to tear into all this again, and I'm not at a different emotional place than I was last year, but I hope that these lines can relieve some of the perplexities, for both of us.
(For the rest, you are an amazing writer (in addition to that you are an amazing person). Go and get published, I will read you.))”
I am thinking about writing something short and kind back. Like thanking her for her understanding, that I respect her feelings, that I hope that she is taking care of herself and that I'm here if she should ever need me.
Good idea?
Any thoughts would be appreciated. :)