my son is depressed, advise please

My boy is 22 today and has never been in a relationship but wants one desperately. He had a friend who was a girl and she was very flirty with him and when he told her how he felt about her she stopped being his friend and he felt so uncomfortable at work he quit his job. He is down in the dumps for months now and has told me last night he wanted to commit suicide and has called the crisis lines and depression lines but he keeps most of everything to himself. He has never been in a relationship and I am trying to figure out how to keep his chin up and the right girl will come along and I know that it will happen but he thinks that life isn't worth living. Please give me some advise as I am lost right now as a mom

I'm 29, going to be 30 in one month, and I have never had a relationship. I've never dated at all. Largely, that has been my choice, my doing, but it is also the result of tremendous shame that built up over being chronically ill since birth. Yeah, that messes you up.

I have no idea how the conversation between your son and his friend went, but I'm surprised she just dumped him like that. I don't blame him for feeling uncomfortable. I know girls don't like their boys to seem desperate, but don't they want a bit of vulnerability? It confuses me too.

Well, he shouldn't have quit his job, but I understand what depression can do. And when I called suicide hotline, wanting to die because I was in terrible pain and had had no validation for my feelings since childhood, they just sounded frustrated with me and didn't want to hear it. You really can't put your life in the hands of those people, and all doctors will do is try to drug you up. Yeah, I got that, too.

So, what should he do? Well, as you can tell, I can't exactly say from experience. What I think he should start with, though, is to try going out with friends again. He shouldn't worry right away about finding a relationship, just hang out and have fun. And also, find another job just to keep occupied, and bring in some resources. Look for girls to hang out with just as friends, and then ask someone if she'd like to go out, and, eventually, find a girl who wants similar things to what he wants. That will be a real foundation.

At 22 years old, he has time. Life is worth living, if you can make it worth living. Everyone has that power, they just need to find it. Hey, I'm almost 30 and I still need to start just hanging out with friends. But it is the way to begin again.

i totally agree with nategerdney. What he said should be followed .