Advice Neede ASAP

Hi,
I am new on this forum but not Healingwell.
Here is what is going on in my household. Husband, we have seperated 3 times over the last 12 yrs so husband is often not a name I use; housemate or room ate, even old age partners, has depression. Looking back when we meet 30 yrs ago, I was coming out of physically abused marriage and fell totally in love w a man who adored me, he just could never verbalized emotions. It did not raise red flags.
This never changed just got worse.
After 14years we owned a home and bickered all the time. I thought he spent time out in garage due to this. Out of the blue one day he stated he had had no concept of feeling happy for three years! I was shocked. How did he hide this?
Today, he has been on couch for months. Last month he hurt his back so bad he was in bed in horrible pain fir a month.
He won't take my Degreed Therapy advice, he won't let me get his paperwork together and hold his hand for low medical assistance.
I have PTSD and other issues, fibromyalgia fir 16 yrs, in the beginning stages if large lawsuit.
I manage to find ways of living Well, I keep going as best as I can. I can't take this anymore, I am leaving soon. Our co- joined issues aren't going anywhere. There is nothing I can do, he tunes me out.
He will become homeless soon. I have neglected many types of my dr's care because I am paying everything on a small check.
I love him but I feel guilty.
HELP SUGGESTIONS?

If he wont go to a therapist, there isn't much you can do. Sounds like you have a lot of your own issues going on. Focus on that. If he has to leave, then so be it. Don't feel guilty.

I wish you the best.

Hugs, Karen...

welcome to the forum.

You are doing the best thing for you.

You have a done all you can for your mate. People can not get well, unless they want to. They must reach out accept the help offered. Some folks have hit solid rock bottom before that happens. This is not your fault or responsiblitity.

As adults we are all responsible for our behavior and actions, not matter what the diagnosis.

I wish your strength and peace
Trina

love is the conduit. without it.............

I always respect those who stick out there relationships, providing it is still healthy and functioning. I guess I have seen some unhealthy co-dependent relationships, where it was just stagnant. apologies, must have been having a bad non compassionate moment, I am a very compassionate turtle. I tend to shoot from the hip at times, and I am known to be crass at times, me, crass, yes! keep strong. when I am aware that I have stuffed up I always apologise. I apologise.

Sounds like you know what to do, and that you just need the encouragement to do it.
So go for it, find a good divorce lawyer and kick him out. Nothing more can be done especially if he won't help himself. Dump this person that is now holding your life back and time for you to move forward, so from this day forward you now have a new life goal to better yourself, no more looking back.
I wish you well in what you choose to do, many blessings...