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Posted 11/11/2015 10:35 PM (GMT 0)
My entire life, it just seems like no matter what, everything goes to hell. I'm tired of it. This last two months has been especially testing. My now ex (who I loved with every fiber of my being) started using meth, and cheated on me, my car broke down, I lost my home, and then my job. Even lost my cat. I am now homeless. I don't know how much more I can take.
Posted 11/11/2015 10:57 PM (GMT 0)
Oh my goodness! That's quite a lot going on! Have you tried calling the Department of Community Affairs to ask about any homelessness prevention program funds which might be available? This time of year there may not be much, but they also have information on other programs.

You deserve someone that will love you the way you love them. If he is an addict, it will rule his life, even if he loves you.

I hope the car problem isn't too extensive or expensive to fix. Sometimes Social Services have programs to help with car repairs. Check with them.

I hope another job becomes your dream job. I'm sorry to hear you don't have the company of your cat anymore.

Keep posting. Better to let it out than keep it all in. It stinks to be at what I call "the bottom of the dog pile".
Posted 11/12/2015 12:40 AM (GMT 0)
Pitmom is right about your ex. Until he gets off of the drugs, they will come first. In a way, maybe it is better you found out now rather than later. I am sure you invested a lot into the relationship. That always hurts. But in time you will probably realize that you are better off this way instead of the heartache of being treated badly or worse. I hope he gets some help.

I also agree with checking out community affairs and Social Services. Both I am sure can give you some help. If not, they can probably direct you. Have you spoke with your local pastor?

Try to take things a day at a time right now. Work on finding a place to stay. Try not to get overwhelmed. Do you have a doctor or therapist that you can consult with through this rough time? It does help to have somebody to talk to when things are at their worst. Talking here helps.

Keep us posted on how things are going.

Hang in there the best that you are able to.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 11/12/2015 1:40 AM (GMT 0)
I went through pretty much the same thing twice.
First thing you need to do is get a job of some kind. It doesn't matter if you like the job or not. The pay does not matter that much. With a job your chances of getting a good job improves greatly. Even a voluntary job would be a step in the right direction.
You did it once, you can do it again.
Stay away from the ex. Not many can come back from a meth addiction.
I hope you have family as they cold help a lot. I was not that lucky.
Use this s a learning experience. You can come back. It isn't easy. Remember what put you in this shape when you get back on your feet.
Posted 11/13/2015 5:11 PM (GMT 0)
I wish you comfort and peace and strength.

I suggest the closest Salvation Army or Catholic charities. they seem the best in tempoary housing and job placement.

You may have hit rock bottom. You are not alone. You have not lost everything. You have your dignity, your brains, knowledge and faith in something. If nothing else, yourself.

Life may have beaten you for the time being, I believe it will only make you stronger for something awesome down the road, that you can't see right now. Accept help from others, careful as I suggested above. If you can keep posting we are here to listen and support you.

If you go to a shelter, guard what items you have people will taken things. That is what they do.

You are not forgotten, there are people who care that you are down.

Peace
Trina
Posted 11/14/2015 4:18 AM (GMT 0)
In life we will encounter countless challenges, it would be difficult and daunting. I'm sorry to hear about the ordeals that you've recently been put through but you've got to survive somehow. You've got to fight and overcome this trials. That's what life is.

Look closely to your problem and try to solve it step by step. Do you still have a family or friends where you can live with? Find another job that's just how it is, earn money to fix your car. Your cat is on a better place now and your ex has issues that doesn't concern you anymore. You need to think about yourself at the moment.

God has plan for you, all you need to do is find the right path.
Posted 11/14/2015 4:33 AM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry for circumstances you are facing .

Please find solace and settle one thing at a time.

It's looks difficult and impossible but it's not.

Find a local shelter and food bank to help you in present .

Take it slow and keep posting to heal your soul.

Good luck.
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