Dealing with a friend

I need some help here. I have a friend that has/is going to far and I can feel my anger rising and it's making me depressed. I have been friends with her since late 80's. I want to preface this by saying I'm not trying to bring up politics per se. I respect everyone's opinions. My friend and I are of different parties. This time I did not care for either candidate at all. I know which way my state votes so, not liking either, I voted for the candidate which was going to win my state. My friend is so upset at the outcome and somehow thinks I put that person in office. One person cannot put someone in office. It is the country that voted and decides. She has referred to him as a person who did inexcusable things to people in another county sometime back. It has offended me. She is so passionate about who she wanted, which is great but she does not have to degrade it make others feel uncomfortable. How do I handle her nasty texts?

Chelsie no

Hi Karen, Thank you for your response. I totally understand your rules about the subject matter and I agree she the rule totally. This is just a bad time of year for me. It's the 2nd holiday season since his passing. Having a rough time with it. Working my 4th season at a certain retail store. Am in IOP 3 days a week. Only have a cousin here whom I rarely see. Didn't feel like doing Thanksgiving so a friend invited me over. My cousin is very involved in her church so figured she would have some place to go but is insisting on taking me out so explained the situation but think she is upset. I have enough going on so CV trying to make it easy for myself. Just can't handle the situation with the rude texts. Have ignored them to avoid conflict. Did post something on Facebook with what I believe a positive comment. Will see what comments will be. Not sure what she says. I have a feeling the comments will not end

Hi chelsi. I'm sorry to hear you are having a problem with a friend. It is said that time heals. Hopefully soon, you two will be able to see that while one likes chocolate and the other vanilla, you haven't lost your friendship over it. One likes dramas while the other prefers comedies. One likes sunshine while the other prefers rainy days. I think you catch my drift.

Fear is the underlying factor in these emotionally charged days. The more peaceful days we experience, the easier it will be to overcome the fear.

I have not lost my close friends but a few of my more peripheral relationships may be changing. If someone chooses not to be in my life, that is their prerogative. I will be sad of course, and miss them, but it will make room for others.

As for the holidays, that's another stressful thing for a lot of folks. Perhaps there is a way you can spend part of the day with one set of folks and still have a visit with the other? Brunch perhaps, while everyone else is waiting for dinner? Or, save room for desert with the other party?