Just a question!

I was just wondering what everyones thoughts  were, on are suicide and wanting to die the same thing? Having thoughts of death but to scared to commit suicide.

I think there are basic differences in thoughts of or about death; thoughts or wishes about wanting to die; thought of or about suicide; and attempting suicide. There may be more, but those seem to me to cover the spectrum. Seems to me though that a person can switch back and forth day by day or even minute by minute.

I think the important thing about any of that is being stuck. All of us get stuck in mud sometimes--on Christmas morning lots of people will be stuck trying to figure out something nice to say about the world's worst present. That will pass. We will get through it.

But other times we get stuck in quicksand. Those are the times and the reason for thoughts of death and suicide. If we see no way out, and only two choices are left--get rid of someone else or get rid of ourselves. The thing is that neither is ever necessary. Neither is the right thing. Neither is desireable--so we scare ourselves out of it--and continue to stay stuck.

No one needs to stay stuck. Getting unstuck may not seem or be easy, but it's the best choice. Meds create an opportunity to think more clearly and to act on getting unstuck. Counseling can do the same. Support from outside (group, family, or friends) may even be enough.

Getting unstuck is about making changes--I repeat again: the smallest change is the best change. To a person with such thoughts, it seems like only a big change can make a difference, but that's just not true. A small change leads to another small change, and then another and another. In time they will total a big change in you, how you think, how you feel, what you believe--and then you will look back at death thoughts and be oh, so glad you lived to see this day.

bev

Eventually even just the "thoughts" of suicide will give in. Even if you are too scared to do it. If your feeling like that, PLEASE get help.