Heartbroken, relationship ended because a depression

It sounds like you have a bit of anxiety going on. I am glad your partner (ex) is going to see a psychiatrist. He can get an idea of just how bad his depression is.

Know that this is not the end of the world, though I am sure it feels like it is. You probably feel rejected and alone. I can only imagine what you are going through. Try to hang in there.

I am glad you are learning about depression. You could probably use some direction right now, have you thought about therapy? I know you joined a support therapy. Is it one on one? I think you could use a little one on one therapy. Not saying anything is wrong with you, but I feel that the support would benefit you a lot. I hope that the support group you joined helps.

It is clear to see you truly care about the guy. But I think working on moving forward will help. Work on you while he is working on himself. Try not to over think, which is something we often do. Just do some nice things for yourself such as self nurturing, listening to music, going on a nice walk. It all helps.

Hang in there and take care...

Hugs, Karen...

So sorry Tracy, that you are having such a hard time with this. I've always thought relationship breakups, and death are the 2 hardest things a person will have to face living this life. That was years ago. I now know that there are way more issues which can cause us to spiral out of control. I still believe relationships are up there in the top, but there are things you can do to help yourself get through this.
Joining a support group was a great idea. I have tried to join one in my area, but haven't been able to find any active.
It's good that you are coming here to talk about it as well.
I wish you well, and hope you can find some understanding in all of this.
I should be able to around quite a bit in the future if you want to talk..
"hugs" Marqi
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A week later and I just wanted to give an updated and ask for support/advice.
Last night I went to his place. I needed to get somethings (we were living together), he texted me the night before and asked I would like to have dinner with him. It wasn’t easy being there because the pain is still pretty deep. I think it was good, but that’s what I need a little unbiased support.
In the past week I’ve relived our relationship, the good and the bad. Saying this I recognized that I missed so many signs that he was struggling.
Anyway, I told myself that I was going to make a positive experience (at least to the best of my ability).
We both tried to talk openly and honestly about the way things ended and the reasons he has to do this on his own.
He told me that he feels like he has flatlined, that he can’t find any joy in his life, that nothing makes him happy. No matter how nice his house or his car is, no matter how much money he has. He can’t pull himself out of this and he won’t survive if he doesn’t find a way to deal with it. I went to a depression support group earlier this week and we talked about some of things I learned.
I told him I have no understanding of what he is going through but that I am reading and researching, trying to at least find ways to be supportive.
We agreed that he needs space right now, to get on him meds and to try and clear his head a little. I told him I’m not going to disappear from his life and he said that he didn’t want me to, that I need to give him time.
We both agreed that for now being friends is enough, that eventually we will talk and do things as friends.
I have to tell myself that I need to have patience with him and be kind to myself in the process.