Posted 8/4/2017 3:47 PM (GMT 0)
Hello everyone!
Myself, so glad your went to concert, what fun! I adore jazz.
Marqi, Good job signing in with "meet up". I actually am looking at it for the Phila, PA area. I am 20min for the city. The suburbs in NJ do not have them.
Lots of groups, hiking, museums, restaurants [which I am not into] Historical trails in the City, etc. I was looking for a Bookie group, but have not found one. May check out the Historical trails, until I feel strong enough for hiking or biking.
I have decided to leave the Support Group I go to on Weds. I already stepped down months ago as a Facilitator. Now I am finding less support and more triggers, frustrations etc... my psychiatrist thinks I have progress passed what this group can provide.
So without this social outlet, there are only a few aquaintances I can meet occassionly, one person actually does altered journals so we have that in common. Another is a bookies, but she is into heavy metal and hubby is a violent wrestler. So little time is spent together even though we like each other.
I totally understand the loss of friends in past. I think it is all part of dealing with our dx's.
I know for sure, one of my "friends" after a year reconnected me, we talked on the phone, she told me that my
stuff[ I had only told her had stuff in my past] was to close to opening up her stuff. that she did not want to deal with,
We could still be 'friends' as long as I never told about. WHAT? I declined of course. Thanked her anyway.
I believe that is what is wrong with MOST people. They see something is us, you, that they FEEL or KNOW is in them. Something they are stuffing, binding for years. Don't want to spend the energy, time or have the courage to face it.
Remember the people dealing with their stuff, WE are the courageous, WARRIORS, healthy ones. In the end we will find life long friends, because empathy, compassion and tolerance slowly comes into our lives and we learn to LOVE OUR SELVES.
By the way, being UNPLUGGED was an awesome experience, I highly recommend it. ONLY remains in touch with a 2 friends by text and 1 by email.
I wish all Peace comfort and strength
Trina