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Posted 8/19/2017 11:07 PM (GMT 0)
so I'm getting divorced from my husband he wanted the divorce not me told me i was a burden and he found someone else he was verbally and emotionally abusive so I'm happy to see my marriage end but sad at the same time making me manic.
Posted 8/19/2017 11:41 PM (GMT 0)
So, if you're manic, do you have any medication?

I'm bipolar, and I take Lithium for my mania and Mirtazapine for my depression.

I know it would be hard to me to keeping going during a time like that without my medication.

Do you think you need to see someone to get you through this time.

You're holding up better than I did when my wife let me know the marriage had gone bad.

Do you have anyone you can talk to?
Posted 8/20/2017 3:45 AM (GMT 0)
new medicine and working out helps keep my mind busy
Posted 8/20/2017 5:34 PM (GMT 0)
One fine day,
He's going to miss you,
One fine day, he'll want to kiss you,
One fine day, he's gonna miss you now you're gone.

"One Fine Day" (hear it on youtube.com)
Posted 8/21/2017 3:22 AM (GMT 0)
thank you i am actiuly glad its ending i was unhappy
Posted 8/21/2017 6:33 PM (GMT 0)
This is a good thing.

You are not a failure.

This is Karma, the Universe or God [what ever you believe] giving back what you have put out into the world.

I suggest you work on self-compassion, you will be amazed at what a wonderful person you actually are!

Peace and strength
Trina
Posted 8/21/2017 9:19 PM (GMT 0)
https://youtu.be/5vJ6sKDR_mg
Posted 8/22/2017 1:31 AM (GMT 0)
Interesting song.
Posted 8/23/2017 7:15 PM (GMT 0)
we are trying the marriage one more time and entering marring therapy thing is my parents bought us this beautiful house we need to make this work.
Posted 8/23/2017 8:10 PM (GMT 0)
Yea, yea, yea.

What did I tell you? Or:

One fine day,
He's going to miss you,
One fine day, he'll want to kiss you,
One fine day, he's gonna miss you when you're gone.

"One Fine Day" (by Carol King) (hear it on youtube.com)

You're as strong as a stone wall.

You said, "thing is my parents bought us this beautiful house we need to make this work."

That was one of the things that kept my wife and I together.

We were buying a house, and neither one of us wanted to leave. I'm living in it right now, after she passed away from a long illness 8 years ago.

So, I stuck it out and it paid off in some ways, in some ways it was pretty rough.

You might want to thank your parents for the "beautiful house." They sound pretty nice, too.

I hope you'll try to work through this. It's pretty rough out there.

Be positive that you can give it your best efforts.

And remember, we're always here.

We'll leave the porch light on for you. Or, you've already got one, with a house that goes with it. Some situations are better than others.
Posted 8/24/2017 1:04 PM (GMT 0)
he is starting to relise that my biploar disorder dosent go away and i just cant be happy all the time but right now he dosent know what he wants to do or how he feels
Posted 8/24/2017 3:24 PM (GMT 0)
All I can say is once an abuser always an abuser.

If through couples therapy he agrees to personal therapy, I would say you have a very good chance for a change.

Peace and change
Trina
Posted 8/24/2017 3:41 PM (GMT 0)
I have bipolar, also, and am on Lithium for the mania and Mirtazapine for the depression.

It keeps me pretty level. So good things do happen.

So you still have the occasional depression?

Let us know how this is going.
Posted 8/24/2017 7:53 PM (GMT 0)
I am bipolar so the depression is almost always there I am slowly getting back to being myself again. smile
Posted 8/24/2017 8:38 PM (GMT 0)
My anti-depressant handles the depression, and generally keeps that away.

You say you are still having difficulty with the depression?

What about the part where you say, "he was verbally and emotionally abusive".

Are you willing to live with that if it doesn't improve?

Do you think that can improve? Do you think individual counseling on his part might help with that?
Posted 8/25/2017 8:01 PM (GMT 0)
if it dosent improve i will leave
Posted 8/25/2017 9:32 PM (GMT 0)
Good.

If you do get back together, I would suggest not having children until things get stable enough for your satisfaction.

I had the worst marriage in the world, but we couldn't get out of that because both of us wanted the child and the house we were buying.

In your case, without the child, if things go bad, he can pack his suitcase and leave. Pretty simple. With a child, rough on everybody including the child.

With a child, and he misbehaves, it's "Oh, my gosh!!!"
Posted 8/26/2017 3:22 PM (GMT 0)
well he dosent want to work on the marrige,,, i asked when i could move back in he said do what ever you want its not my house
Posted 8/26/2017 5:23 PM (GMT 0)
OK, so we're back to square one, where the marriage was over, when you said in your first post:

"so I'm getting divorced from my husband he wanted the divorce not me told me i was a burden and he found someone else he was verbally and emotionally abusive so I'm happy to see my marriage end but sad at the same time making me manic."

Your most recent post said, "well he dosent want to work on the marrige,,, i asked when i could move back in he said do what ever you want its not my house"

I kinda agree with you, probably best that he is out of your life.

You also said, "new medicine and working out helps keep my mind busy"

That's good.

Keep singing, and enjoy your house.
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