Loneliness

Just joined to this forum. Ive joined to many other forums and look for depression forums and sites, mostly to meet others, others who have joined looking to meet other people, but have been so difficult to find others to chat, I just ended up with a couple of sites I visit but only to find nothing.

I dont have depression, or at least not in a great way. I have some hard problems about work, I dont have any other to talk or do anything, Ive been passing my days alone without no one to talk, and dont doing much, just passing the days, but Ive been handleling ok, because I enjoy things, and I like to do things, or I would like.

Im 26 old going to 27. Dont know, lets see if someone appears here, dont think so, but.

At the beggining the idea to find a depression site and find others to talk and such seemed such a great thing, but then just ended up in nothing, I still have the hope to mee someone in this sites, but at the same seems very unlikely to happen, which makes such a feeling of void.

Loneliness is horrible - I feel it a lot.

However I'm not sure depression forums are the best place to look for new people if you are not depressed. For a start, most depressed people don't tend to want to talk much, even if they are horribly lonely - making small talk can feel as exhausting as Sisyphus rolling a boulder up a hill for eternity.

However if you continue to feel lonely, there is a real risk of that leading to depression sooner or later. So I would encourage you to keep trying to meet people. It is hard to be honest - most of my old forums have died out. But consider forums or groups which are related to your interests. If you play games, there is an internet community for most games. It may help to just lurk for a while and get a 'feel' for the place - that way you can decide if the people actually interest you or not before joining.

Good luck and I hope you meet a few people to talk to.

man-Argentina said...
At the beggining the idea to find a depression site and find others to talk and such seemed such a great thing, but then just ended up in nothing, I still have the hope to mee someone in this sites, but at the same seems very unlikely to happen, which makes such a feeling of void.

Please do not give up. You never know with whom you might identify and find support.

On the other hand, loneliness can extend even onto the Internet and the different support sites. On a couple I visit, there are clearly groups of users who are on the same wavelength and "click" with one another to provide support when needed. I think some of the typical forum features, like friends lists, followers, and up-voting, inadvertently make others feel like outsiders. At least on some user profiles there it says "Your friends list is empty", as opposed to "You have no friends", which I guess would be even more unintentionally damaging to the psyche.

In any case, the point is that one needs to be active and seeking out others on these forums. Your active participation -- posts, replies, reactions, votes, etc. -- is the only way others are even aware of you. I'm not especially good at this, as I have some loner tendencies, so it's not working in my favor. Many others seem to have a natural ability to interact and be "popular" on the forums. I guess it's just like real life in any other context.

Okay, so you make a post about loneliness and looking for friends on a depression forum. You don't reply for 4 months, then come back and tell us you're not interested in our advice.

Yeah, no wonder you can't make friends.

Gotta agree with that summary. Thumbs up Nice Cup of Tea.

FWIW I am lonely too. Happens. Chronic pain makes it hard to get out and have friends.

These guys are right. This is an advice forum for people to share their situations. Not a place to meet people, not saying you wouldn't though.

People are just trying to help.

Hugs, Karen...

Only I can say... if any joined to the forum for the same, let me know.

Try Reddit. Unlike on Healing Well, where people tend to be on the older side, Reddit consists mostly of 20-30 year olds.

https://www.reddit.com/r/lonely/

Also found this:

https://www.alonelylife.com/

Please don't snap this time. I'm only trying again because I know how miserable loneliness is - I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy tbh.