Life repeats again...

So, once again I seem to be friendless- at least as real life friends, that is. A condition I’ve suffered for 50+ years! You’d think eventually I’d learn how to make friends, but it always takes me a long time.

Not even sure why I’m posting this.. I guess because it’s 1:48 am here and the thoughts in my head are not the healthiest.

Do you have any pets? They help in times like these. You feel not so alone. Just a thought.

Hugs, Karen...

I know it is hard. I went out with a lady last weekend and we are going to try to do it once a month. It was fun but I got tired at the end. Maybe the more I go the easier it will be. But I am so glad I went. I been stuck in the house since November. I go to doctor's appointments and shopping, but that is about it. I do have a husband and we are friends so that does help, but we don't really see each other much during the day. For the most part I don't mind being alone, but it still gets to me at times.

I am glad you do get out and you do see people even though it may not be a close friendship, it is something. And once you get your car back you will feel better knowing if you do want to go out, you can.

I haven't traveled much and I don't see that in the future either but you never know. Even 5-7 days is better than nothing. I think you should schedule a day trip to go on. You never know where you will meet people. Though like you say for introverts that is hard. It probably would be for me.

I hope that things get better for you Lynnwood. I think you have a lot of tools in your tool box. I think you have been using them as best as you can. Keep hanging in there...

Hugs, Karen...

Hmmm... the phrase "friends for a season" comes to my mind when reading your post. Most of my friends came into my life at different turning points or pivotal times in my life.

I use to get upset that I don't speak to most of them anymore, but looking back I think they were briefly in my life for a purpose; when that purpose became fulfilled, we drifted apart or realized that we had nothing in common anymore.

I think it's hard to develop deep, meaningful friendship, especially at a certain age, and with our illnesses, but it's not impossible although it may take some time.

Have you tried meet-up groups? Often people make friends with those, who have similar interests or hobbies.

If your religious, you might want to try meeting people at religious organizations, i.e. church, synagogues, etc; I recently started going to church and am meeting new people.

Whatever you do, don't give up on making friends.

Post Edited (ForeverPositive) : 6/4/2019 9:20:16 PM (GMT-6)

Similar situation here. I've had "best" friends for years throughout different times in school and afterwards, but virtually every single one dropped off the radar eventually for some reason. Nothing dramatic, mainly just going away and loss of contact.

At this relatively late stage in life (40s and 50s), most people already have their family and friends circles set in stone, and it's tough to make new ones.

Being a friend is a gradual process. You gotta work on it. If you ignore / hurt people they eventually will grow cold towards you. We always treat family / friends as a given, not understanding that we could lose them with a blink of an eye.