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Posted 4/26/2006 11:36 AM (GMT 0)
Well I told the father that I was pregnant and it did NOT go well. He basically said he did not want it. Everything was wrong about it for him. The next day I had a mini breakdown or major depending how you look at it. I had serious thoughts of hurting myself permanently and tried to do it but I couldn't. I called my therapist and she was concerned for my safety so I was admitted to a psychiatric hospital for 4 days. I was released 2 days ago and don't feel suicidal anymore just overwhelmed that this man won't be there for me. Iv'e been told to give him space because of the shock but raising a child without the support of the father scares me. This is not how I wanted my life to turn but but nothing ever has. I was married and wanted a baby and it didn't happen so now I am faced at 35, the biggest decision of my life to continue despite the fathers objections. I really need support to get through this difficult time. This DID NOT help my depression at all and I am struggling to get through every day it seems.

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Beeze

Posted 4/26/2006 1:20 PM (GMT 0)
Beeze
Ok,first things first. You now have someone else that you are responsible for,meaning you need to try to get it together for you and your child. Believe me,it is not easy. You are on an emotional roller coaster and that probably will not end for awhile.
As far as the father,well quite frankly if you decide that you are keeping the baby,he has no choice in having something to do with the child at least financial wise. He is probably totally freaking out right about now,and lashed out at you. People tend to say harsh things when they are scared and confused. But he is an adult,he needs to face reality. This is not something that he can just close his eyes too and have it go away.
A baby is a scary thing. For both the mother and the father. And a baby is alot of responsibility...guys freak out just hearing the "C" word...and I think they tend to freak out hearing the "R" word.

Make sure you keep the doctors appointments and right now I would focus on healing for yourself and your baby.
Posted 4/27/2006 5:07 AM (GMT 0)
Breeze,
I read your post and I felt that I had to reply. I don't have any children but I wanted to give you support. As a new adult of 21 years old, I have a new found appreciation for my parents, and what they did for me. I really think if you just try your best that later on down the line your future child will see that and greatly appreciate it. No matter how hard the times get a life is the greatest thing you can give to anyone. Hang in there.
Posted 4/27/2006 12:54 PM (GMT 0)
this sounds like a dificult situation, wait till the baby is born and you will fall in love with it , motherhood nature , don't worry about what will happen GOD always finds a way for you to survive and live gracefully.

maybe you can seek help from your parents
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