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Posted 5/19/2006 6:01 AM (GMT 0)
  This is the hardest thing I have ever gone through. My brother is so angry, negative, hateful, at the world, typical signs of depression. Nothing I say does any good, including suggestions of getting help. I have been supportive in all ways. This is affecting my life. I struggle with depression, am getting help, but this is putting a dark cloud over me. I came here tonight because I know someone here will understand.
Posted 5/19/2006 8:35 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Ya,
This is got to be hard on you, its easy to say you should think of you first, but thats not always possible,
I don't have any answers for you again, if he's not willing to help himself then there isnt much you can do, uness you can convince him to at least make some effort to deal with this, even if its reading a book about depression, at least that may give him some insight into himself,
I hope someone later will have some good idea's for you,
Posted 5/20/2006 10:56 AM (GMT 0)
hello fotoartist,

I have same problem but its my DAD , he gets very angry all of a sudden , most of the time he is yelling and his face becomes red. we always try to keep him calm but we can't really do anythiing about it except suggesting him to seek help. its very painfull for me to see him like this.

his excuse is he dont want to take more meds and he is diabetic and blood presure issues. other than his anger he seems to live a normal life he is going to the gym, library, movies etc.. he is 65 years old.
Posted 5/20/2006 1:54 PM (GMT 0)
Hi foto,  It is hard to see someone you love suffer with depression and refuse all help.  It is even worse when they become angry and negative as this seems to increase your worry.  My brother is like this also but he has BP and explosive personality disorder.  You have to find someway to resolve with yourself that you are doing all you can for him.  His decisions and actions are not your responsibility or cross to bear.   You can not to take on his problems or his depression upon yourself.  It is okay to be worried, concerned and involved and give him support and encouragement to seek help.  Perhaps if this situation is effecting you to this extent you could talk to counselor or therapist about it and they can give you some suggestions on how better to handle this situation.  Take care ~ Elisha 

Posted 5/23/2006 10:38 AM (GMT 0)
This must be very frustrating for you. I worry about my b'friends depression but struggling with it yourself must make things twice as hard.

I think although it's natural to worry about someone else, you're no use to them unless your looking after youself too.

Take care of you too

Lyndsey
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