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Posted 6/13/2006 8:19 AM (GMT 0)
Hi,

Me and my mum think mmy dad( he's 65 years old) is deppresed. he gets angry very quicly, usually for very simple and eazy matters.
and he does not like to get a no for an answer, looks at things always with a negative point of view.

Usually takes 1-2 minutes talking about issues that need to be reolved and then he starts shouting.

We managed to convince him to go to a psyuciatris and he gave him romeron. this medicine help him to sleep the first few months, and it also had an effect on his anger, but we feel that his body got used to this drug and he continue to shout at us again . Ii want to take him to my doctor in egypt but he refused. We are not even sure what is he telling the doctor.

Another complain, my dad does not like to get a lot of medicine. since he already takes a lot for Diabities type 2, and blood pressure, he does not want to end up taking a lot of medicine so he told the psyciatris to not persrive a lot of medicines.

Generaly if we ignore the needless shouting my dad likes to go to gym and library, free movies ( low budget films ) and keeps himself buesy most of the time , thats good for someone 65 years old.
we tried everything to convince him so i would ask you 2 questions:

1) Are we on the right track here, to keep trying to keep from uncontrolled shouting and to help him or do you think he's just doing fine. i think he.
2) what do you suggest we do we can't concince him even with the small things how about convinceing him to be honest with his doctor or change to the doctor in egypt?

I'm really woried about him, he gets frustrated a lot. specially if he asks for something and i don't have anything to fullfil his need, or if he asks where is his sun and i dont know he gets mad and says that i am not paying attension etc.
Posted 6/13/2006 9:42 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Akram,
I think you need to keep trying, but not to hard, if he senses you are pushing him then you will make him close off to any idea,
I think what you describe, at your Dads age it could be many things, i think as you get older you see both the successes of your life as well as the failures, even those that are out of your hands, so its possible that it is a mix of Depression and Frustration,
There is a link with the place we are born, a spiritual home if you like, and i think the older we get the more it calls, theres also what we ourselves may have wanted to make of our lives, and sadly for many in these days its not always possible and because of that we may think our lives as a failure, even though it is far from a failure
Make sure you get him walking in the park and quiet places where there is nature, try to keep the house smelling fragrant and as much as possible add some nice music,
If you can get some Pamplets from the Doctors, place them one by one over a period of time where he can find them and quietly and secretly read,
You love your Father, so try to understand and respect him, but guide him gently, we oldies are a little slower both in Physical and thinking

I hope this helps Akram
Posted 6/13/2006 12:58 PM (GMT 0)
Yes it helps very much. btw brownleaf can i ask how old are you? since you said your old.
Posted 6/13/2006 8:11 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Akram
Im 47, and only stopped being a teenager when i turned 40, but then i only started getting grey hairs and wrinkles then too
Have a great day Akram
Posted 6/28/2006 4:12 PM (GMT 0)
good news,

My father went to see the doctor finally. and with my mum. doctor gave him cipralex ( Lexapro ) and told him some medication work on some people and fail others so he need to see him in a month. I'm kind of happy, I want to see him better I hope we did the right thing.
Posted 6/28/2006 4:16 PM (GMT 0)
Very good Akram!  I hope the Lexapro helps...
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