Having a bad day

Your "best friend"? Sounds like to me that you are someone that she can have around to make herself feel good by bringing you down. Her life may not be as charmed as she'd have you believe. I wouldn't want to be around someone that won't at least TRY to be UNDERSTANDING, 'though they can't UNDERSTAND---there is a difference between the two afterall. HAve you had an open honest discussion with her about how you feel? Not in an accusing tone, but in just a "gee, that hurts my feelings when you...." If she's a true friend, she'll want to take your feelings into consideration. If not, well....
I wish you the best!
janet

Some people just don't understand how serious depression really is. If they can handle problems and disappointments well, they think you can too. I think that's when they start being insensitive. Not that they mean to but they just think if they can, well why can't you... Janet and stronglady are right. I think you should talk to her about your feelings, otherwise she would keep on doing that, thinking that it's ok with you. But if she refused to be considerate of your feelings, then I guess it's up to you if you'd like to keep her as a friend.

Hi Aurora60,
To feel left out is the pits. I know how difficult it is even when the snub isn't intentional. My wife and I were at a memorial service for a mutual friend that brought a lot of old friends together fot the first time in many years. I had been part of that group. But when it came time to talk of old times it was as if i didn't exist. I felt I tried to participate but the crcle kept closing. I'm not sure what I'm trying to add here but the feeling of exclusion for any reason real or imagined is hard. I'd like to think your "friend" is just unaware of the affect she had. But just maybe her world isn't perfect and she needs to hear how hurtful it is to be told you don't know someone well enough or that your not on the A list for a small wedding. I would hope she wouldn't quote the bride or her mother to you. It's not her place to explain or define why you would be left out. 20 years is a lot of get-to-know-you time.
You are not alone and from what I read part of a good circle here. Take care and I hope I helped

I totaly understand how you feel and I have the same feeling as you do. For example I have days, where I'm just in a super great mood and i'm strong and feel like I can do so much in life and follow my goals and everything is going good as well. But then the days come of course where I feel very very different and just so sad. And that comes all of sudden too. Like today. I had a horrible day and i've been just so sad and could just simply cry out of no where all day long.
My brother has depression and he started talking with me about this last year. I had those terrible down days during the years more often, but never really thought about this that this could be depression. And if, then I would never tell anyone about it, because I'm afraid that I they won't like or think that i'm crazy or whatever..and i scared i will loose this way my friends. Today, I really think that I have depression. I'm an international student and here all by myself which is not good at all. Just last week, my only good two girlfriends that i had here, left to go back home. Now, everyone needs a girlfriend to hang out with and to chat. It is so hard for me to make good friends here and special for me as someone from another country. The only one that I really have here is my boyfriend. But I got today so upset with him, because he rather prefered to see his buddy that (I know) he maybe sees once a year then coming over for at least an hour and cheering me up and being here for me. I was really down and felt like I have no one and I also feel that my boyfriend has no idea how bad I feel today and how serious my depression today is.
It's not easy and I don't know what to do with myself and how to handle myself. I love to be here and study here, meeting new people and all that, but at the same time it is very hard for me and sometime i feel like the people just talk to me for a bit and then loose the interested in me very fast and don't care about me. I'm a very nice girl and love to laugh usually, have a great sense of humor and like to help out a lot. My only problem is, I'm very quiet and shy and most of the people see this as weird and don't want to deal with me as much. I only open up more when i meet people that have the same interestes, are friendly that i have the feeling they really like me or i know that someone for a long time.
There are those ups and downs but sometimes i just really don't know how to deal with those downs like today. What do you do when you feel so bad?
I'm glad i found out about this website today and i hope i can talk to many people that feel the same like me and we can share our problems. Sorry got a little bit much of writing but thanks for reading!

Hi Sadcat,  I am to adding my welcome to you, we are happy to have you join our community.  It takes much strength and courage to move so far away from home to another country go to school.  I imagine it is quite an adventure for you.  I agree that perhaps you could benefit from some counseling.  If you are at University you can check and see if they offer students discounted or free rates as many do.  Also, I was going to suggest perhaps some volunteer work.  This is a wonderful way to meet people and helps build up self-esteem as you feel that you are doing some good for others. Please do continue to post, HW is a wonderful place for information and support.  Not to mention that all our members here are completely wonderful and always willing to help.  Looking forward to seeing more from you.  Take care 

As a student there should be resources through the school you are going to.  Check with your campus counselling services, they deal with depression often and your story will not be weird to them.  Also, look into campus clubs as a way of meeting people.  Good luck.