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Posted 8/16/2006 3:44 AM (GMT 0)
Hello.

As I'm painfully shy and feeling a little awkward, I'm hesitant with this first message. I actually agonized over what to say for about ten minutes before finally deciding to post.

Isn't that silly?

I've been looking for a place like this for a long time. Dealing with depression is hard enough (insert wry grin and a world-weary nod...here) -- and I needed...absolutely needed...to connect to and talk with other people just like me. People who struggle and live with this thing, just like me. People who know how I feel, who know the ups and downs, who know different ways to cope and different reasons to smile.

Please be my community. Please help me, too. I'm just another member; it's taken a long time for me to decide to join, to overcome the shyness in order to post...but I'm hoping that this "connection" idea I have will help. I really do.

Hi. I'm here. Nice to meet you all.

Posted 8/16/2006 4:02 AM (GMT 0)
On of the cool things about being in a community is that those people can tease you, and laugh with you, like no one else can in the world. It wasn't on this site but when I first encountered the community feeling it was as I introduced myself, using my own brand of humor and the response was "Yippee, a weirdo like us with a sense of humor!" When I read your post the first thing I thought was even if you are "painfully shy and feeling awkward" you still have your sense of humor and that will take you a long way. Sometimes you just have to laugh.

We will be your community because that is what we do. Each of us knows the pain of those around us not understanding, no matter how much they care for us. My mother still looks at my sister and I (both of us have dealth with depression) and says, "I just don't know when you two started doing this." like it was a choice. Oh, Mom. This is a place where shyness does not have to get in your way because you choose how and when while you are here. Continue to come here, get to know us, we'll get to know you and before you know it, we will be like that community you are talking about.


Welcome.
Posted 8/16/2006 4:20 AM (GMT 0)
If we don't laugh we'll all just go insane! I to had to think long and hard about my first post and still find myself unsure of what I'm trying to accomplish. But that's just the point, all of us are trying. In dealing with our son, who had a major anger at the world and made it hard on everyone especially himself, My wife realized that he wasn't doing this on purpose. Nobody makes themselves that miserable for fun. None of us are "choosing" to be the way we are. But we all are "trying" to find the answers to happier more productive life. Please post again and I hope you'll continue the humor. Jer
Posted 8/16/2006 4:55 AM (GMT 0)

Elegy, thanks for being the first response to my post. I hope we can find some help here.

I also want to say thanks to stronglady and IFIXDIT too. Your suggestions and thoughts are very much appreciated.

Posted 8/16/2006 10:07 AM (GMT 0)
Welcome elegy - to our little community here ! It is a wonderful, warm, caring nonjudgmental group which I have found to be of so much help in dealing with my depression. I have become hooked to it in a month and cannot spend the day without checking in at least twice if not more often.

Having been painfully shy for a portion of my life - I can identify with the way you feel ! Welcome to healingwell !
Posted 8/16/2006 10:41 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Elegy,  Welcome to Healing Well forum, we are most happy to have you join our community.  This is a great place for information and support so I do hope you continue to visit us here and post as often as you like.  Our members are just wonderful and always willing to help no matter what they have going on in their lives, that is what makes it so special.  I am looking forward to seeing more from you....take care
Posted 8/16/2006 11:54 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Elegy --

So glad you found this community. I've been here for about a month only, and remember the awkwardness and fear of first posts only too well. It took me a little while to feel really comfortable (I'm also anxiety-panic girl, so had lots of paranoia jumping up and making me think "argh, I'm too exposed!"!!!!!!!), but I'm now in that comfortable place, and know I have friends here who will understand and show warmth. -- Just how comfortable I am is demonstrated by the fact that I've notched up enough posts to be a "Veteran Member" -- was quite surprised and pround at that! :) I can be pretty reclusive and withdrawn myself but I don't feel that way here now (have turned into a regular chatterbox!) -- which has really helped (no longer silencing myself): this is probably the best therapy I've ever had!

Please talk to us whenever you feel like it -- and know that you have made contact (I hope you feel that even more from the replies you've had) and that you are part of the community here, and we will all help as much as we can.

Take care,
Rosie x
Posted 8/16/2006 2:57 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Elegy,

 

Welcome to Healing Well.  It lovely to have you here and Im sure you will find people here are very supportive and easy to talk to.

Please keep posting and take care

 

Posted 8/17/2006 12:43 AM (GMT 0)

Wow.

I'm overwhelmed by the welcomes, by the apparent care...by everything.

Thank you so very much, guys. It's starting to feel safer and more relaxed already...

I look forward to getting to know you all.

:)

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