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what do u find the best cure for depression?
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Posted 10/14/2006 8:11 PM (GMT 0)
hey im new here, only 14 n i know, thats a young age but hey. i dont know what to do with my self and i feel like i desperately need some1 to talk to. i cant tell any1 in my life, i'm too ashamed. my friemds at school won't understand. they're still mentally young, (no seriously, they are) i go to boarding school and feel myself slowly going under. i listen to depressing music and find myself crying all the time. i try talkin to a girl here but she just thinks im stupid and spread it round all these nasty *****y people. i cant talk to any1 anymore i feel. i tried to talking to my mum but she just says, "oh! it's just you being a teenager! you'll ge tover it!" an dlaughs. no1 takes me seriously and i need some serious advice or atleast desperately some1 around my age to talk to. please just do something
Posted 10/14/2006 8:37 PM (GMT 0)
Dear feelsalone,

You are not alone.  You are remarkable young girl for having the insight to know that you are depressed.  Awareness is the first step.  Please don't stop talking to people about how you are feeling.  You will find people who will relate to you.  One girl is just one girl.  Believe me there are so many girls feeling the way you do.  When I was 15, I didn't make eye contact with anybody when I walked down the halls.  Before that I was vibrant and smart.  I never had high self-esteem so when tragedy came (Mom and Dad divorce) I withdrew.  I didn't know it then but I was depressed.  It's not just a "teenage thing."  You know that.  You are incredibly wise to have the awareness that you have.  Their is a lot of hope for you.  Did you know that people/adults go well into their later years in denial acting like silling teenagers, never dealing with their problems?  You have an opportunity to deal with them now and remember this saying "what you can feel, you can heal."  I recommend that you talk to a school counselor immediately.  Tell her what you told us here on the board and she will help you get the help that you need.  Please come back and tell us how that goes.

K.

Posted 10/15/2006 8:57 AM (GMT 0)
hey hopeful migrainer,
thanks for your reply, but how would i find a school counselor? i dont really want to go round everyone asking who and where and she is if you know what i mean, I'd REALLY love to get it sorted.

ps- could you also please explain what a school counselor does?
Posted 10/15/2006 12:11 PM (GMT 0)
Why do you listen to depressing music? Seems to me it makes matters worse.

Ed

Posted 10/15/2006 2:59 PM (GMT 0)
A school counselor might only be available in high-school.  Please talk to the school nurse about this ASAP.  Believe it or not, the school cares about this subject.  They just don't advertise to well who to turn to.  Pllease go talk to the school nurse so she can advise you from there and let us know what she says.
Posted 10/15/2006 4:47 PM (GMT 0)

Hi feelsalone, I am glad that you felt safe enough to post here...I do hope you come back to post again.  I wonder by the way you post if you’re in the UK perhaps?  I can post an international helpline for you if you like...that would give you someone to talk to one on one.  They are unbiased and really do help.

I have posted two links below for you.  They both are really great resources.

http://www.befrienders.org/

http://suicidehotlines.com/international.html
Posted 10/15/2006 6:08 PM (GMT 0)
Welcome, feels alone!  Glad you found us.

The school nurse, or counselor, sounds like a great idea for a place to find some help.  The other good source would be your family doctor when you are home for a visit.  Any of these professionals would/should take your concerns seriously and offer useful suggestions.  They would also keep your information confidential, which is important.

I'm sorry your mom didn't take you more seriously.  She is right in that changing body chemicals/hormones can wreck havoc during teenage years and cause lots of different moods - but you asked for help and didn't get it.  Perhaps if you could let her know how much you were hurting she would not brush you off so quickly.

Let us know about how you are getting on ...  :-)

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