My sister needs help!

How about quizzing her on my symptoms? I had an aunt who, years ago, sat me down and asked me a series of questions -- I think it was called the Beck Depression Inventory. She added up my score, which indicated that I was depressed. She then asked me, "So what do you think about that?" I got defensive at first and denied that I was depressed. As I kept trying to minimize my symptoms, she quietly said to me, "You know, there is nothing you could tell me about yourself that would make me love you any less." Maybe if you approach your sister non-confrontationally, you and she can understand why getting help for her depression is so frightening to her. I think once you understand that, the rest might fall into place, and your good relationship will be just fine.

Hi Sue T,
It is hard to stand back and watch someone you love go through depression. Unfortunately until they admit to the depression and want to be treated, the only thing you can truly do is to offer your support and let them know you are there for them. The rest is up to them. She does stand a chance of her depression getting worse due to post-partum depression which could compound the problem. Sometimes we have to make tough decisions and risk the relationship if what is best would be to confront her and get the help she need.
Ican

Hi Sue
Having a family "intervention" with your sister might help. I am not sure that pointing out that she is not responding to her kids the best way is the best answer though.
She is very sensitive right now,and really just needs to be told that she deserves to be happy again...


Good Luck

Shy