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Posted 3/11/2007 12:13 AM (GMT 0)
I am looking for a web site to deal with sexual abuse. Healingwell  doesn`t have a topic on it and i need it urgently .thankyou .Restless
Posted 3/11/2007 12:22 AM (GMT 0)
Here's one:

www.sexualabuse.co.nz

I'll post some more as I find them. I got this one by Googling "sexual abuse." There's lots out there.

zinniagirl
Posted 3/11/2007 12:28 AM (GMT 0)
This one looked really good: www.SurvivorsHealingCenter.org

You are not a pain in the butt AT ALL.

zinniagirl
Posted 3/11/2007 12:29 AM (GMT 0)
i feel as though i am
Posted 3/11/2007 11:28 AM (GMT 0)
Restless you are not a pain so please don't think you are. Everyone here just wants to help you to get well. You have to really want to help yourself and get well to start this healing process so having a bit of determination is a good thing. Thats what helped me. I have been where you are so I know how you are feeling right now but I promise you that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Take care and keep in touch. We just want to help you and see you well again.
Posted 3/11/2007 12:43 PM (GMT 0)
Restless
Victoria is right,we do not feel that you are a pain. We all want you to get better and get through all of this.

Stay strong.


Shy
Posted 3/11/2007 2:39 PM (GMT 0)
restless are you wanting a thread on healing well to discuss sexual abuse?  We have done that before and can do that again if you like...there are many members here who deal with these same issues
Posted 3/11/2007 8:25 PM (GMT 0)
restless, you might feel as though you are a pain, but that's the depression's distorted thinking at work. Stay strong, okay? You will get through this. I really wish there was something I could do to take away your pain. All I can say is that we are all here for you.

zinniagirl
Posted 3/11/2007 9:12 PM (GMT 0)
thank you to all of you for your wonderful help encouragement and support it really goes a long way .There are a lot of ups and downs for me at the moment and i`m doing my best to sort them out it`s great to have the help available .
Els i would really benefit and i know of others also who would benefit greatly form a sexual abuse thread.I was abused as a child and am having a lot of problems at the moment about it .Thankyou for your help .
I do feel a bit better the past couple of days but i just take each day as it comes and deal with it as best i can .
Restless
Posted 3/11/2007 10:48 PM (GMT 0)
I understand restless, I will put up a thread so you and others can post to it.  I hope it helps :-)
Posted 3/11/2007 10:49 PM (GMT 0)
thank you so much els
Posted 3/11/2007 11:00 PM (GMT 0)
anytime dear...hugs
Posted 3/12/2007 3:26 AM (GMT 0)
Just want to say thank you and I am so impressed the way that everyone here suports everyone else on all of the forums.
Posted 3/12/2007 3:30 AM (GMT 0)
KodakPuppy so am i and i just glad i finally found some where to feel safe and can talk to those who have gone through much the same experiences
Posted 3/12/2007 12:11 PM (GMT 0)
This site has been a God send for me. I was able to let things out that I had held in for a very long time.

Shy
Posted 3/14/2007 10:11 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you everyone still struggling and have had a few past issues flare up i`m trying desperately to deal with.Just some thing more.
Restless
Posted 3/14/2007 7:42 PM (GMT 0)
Just one day at a time, restless. It's gonna be okay, but healing does take time.

write back sometime today if you get a chance, okay? I need to go now but will check back in later.

Many e-hugs,

zinniagirl
Posted 3/15/2007 9:06 AM (GMT 0)
Things not going so good i`ve started to have the night mares back again and even wet the bed which is extreemly embarrassing i hide it from my hubby .It`s been a while since they were this bad i just wish they would go away for good.
Restless
Posted 3/15/2007 12:31 PM (GMT 0)
Restless

It is time to go to the doctor.
Pick up the phone and make the appointment. You are not going to get better without help.
You have to make the first step
Posted 3/15/2007 7:50 PM (GMT 0)
Ihave an appointment next week so hopefully this one won`t be cancelled
Posted 3/15/2007 9:15 PM (GMT 0)
Restless, have to read any books about healing? When I was going through coucilling I was asked to read, I think it was called: The courage to heal. I read the original but I think there are more now.

It was extremely hard to read. But it forced me to face some things I never wanted to go back to. At the end, there was a chapter for spouces to read. Very informative and helped my marriage out a lot.

Several times I had to put the book down and cry. You become almost sick. Not just your mind, but your whole body suffers. When I went through this I was also dx with Ucerative Colitis and had kidneystones. I needed sleeping pills, ativan and anti-depressants just to function. But I believe you have to relive it all, process it all and know that in time it will get easier. In the end, I was on the road to healing. The forgiving of the abuser never came, but my self forgiveness did.

I just wish I had this board to help, because it is easier to let it out to others who experience the same things. You are not alone.
Posted 3/16/2007 8:17 AM (GMT 0)
thank you sassy i have really appreciated this site for being there and to share with others our experiences can you tell me the name of the author .I have read a few books that were recommended when i was at breaking point last time .I with hte help of a councillor thought that i hd dealt with all of what had happened but in view of recent events that have occoured it has all come back .I wrote a letter to one of my abusers(my brother ) i can not for give him and asked him not to contact me again as he is no longer my brother as far as i was concerned as for one other he has since been killed in a car accident and the uncle that was involved he kept on ringing me one day until i was so upset i told him i remembered what he had done .I have never heard from him again thank heavens and as for the other three i have no idea who they even were in all my flashbacks i can`t see their faces they are just blank .It`s such a horrible feeling believe me to know exactly what has ben done to you but knot know who they were.As for forgiving my parents for not forgiving me i tried at christmas but it ended so bad i can`t do that either and i know time is running out as now my mother has terminal cancer so i`m not sure if i will ever be able to .The pain they helped cause is just so intense i can`t get over it at all.
Restless
Posted 3/16/2007 11:31 AM (GMT 0)
Restless
I have not had the courage to post my rape at 12 yrs old yet..I have talked about it on here before but it took alot out of me.
I know that healing for me is a long way off as far as that goes. But,I try.
Anyway,I am very glad that you have your appointment and I look forward to hearing your progress.


Shy
Posted 3/16/2007 10:07 PM (GMT 0)
It`s going to be a big day i have an appointment to see the plastic surgeon to remove the cancer in the morning also so am preey well on edge dealing with it all .Shy talking about what has happened to me took over 45 years to do i just blocked a lot of it out and the psychologist said there is still even worse that is still being blocked out i just don`t want to know any more i`ve had enough .
Restless
Posted 3/16/2007 11:53 PM (GMT 0)
Restless
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Please stay strong and keep us posted!


Shy
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