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Posted 3/16/2007 6:09 AM (GMT 0)
hi im mike im 20 years old from saskatoon canada..

i dont know you but i have no one else to turn to, i have no family or friends.  I do have a girlfriend, but she is moving away in 3 months with her parents.  She is my life i am soo depressed i am in so much pain.  i feel so alone.  i just want to end this pain.  she cant stay here with me cause she is in too much debt and i dont make hardly any money.  i cant stop crying i cant eat, i cant even function.  I cant go to work in this state.

thank you for listening.  i have no family , both of my parents are dead.  My father committed suicide 6 years ago and my mother died from a drug overdose.  I have a brother but he lives far away.  I had a few friends but lost them when i started hanging out with this girlfriend all the time.  I feel like i have nothing to live for now.

please give me some advice i dont know what to do.  She leaves in three months so i have a little time to figure it out, if theres a way to keep her here.  she really wants to stay but i think its best for her to go, cause she lives for free with her parents, then she can work on paying off her debt and return to university and have a better life.  I told her its probably best for her to go but inside im screaming please stay here with me i need you!!!

I feel like i am losing my mind my heart is aching i have nobody to talk to.  If you have any advice please help me cause i dont think i can take this pain much longer.  Thank you for listneing to me.

Mike

Posted 3/16/2007 11:36 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Mike
Welcome to the board. You are going to find that there are alot of caring people on here that give great advice.
I am so sorry for what you have been through and what you are going through.
Loosing someone you love is probably the hardest thing in the world. Something that no one wants to face.

I am going to throw in an old old saying here: When you love someone set them free and they will come back to you.
I am sure your g/f is going through the same pain you are at this time. She is just trying to survive,and sometimes surviving has hard choices.
I know that from experience as I had to move 2 hrs from my kids. I cried for 2 years basically. See them quite a bit,but now they are older and have their own lives so it is easier.
But,you can stay in touch with her by phone,email and chat.
See if there is anyway that you can see each other once or twice a month.
And then don't give up.
She is still healthy,she is just moving away for awhile. This does not mean that you will never see her again.
Love has a way of coming back.

Stay strong.

Shy
Posted 3/24/2007 1:13 AM (GMT 0)
hello again

my girlfriend is now moving for sure she told me today, i feel like a part of me inside died.  I still had that little hope it would work out and she'd be able to stay.  To make matters worse they are thinking of firing me at my job.  I had a very bad performance review and was told to improve quick or im gone.  My girlfriend also is thinking about breaking up with me now altogether  " to make it easier."  I really have nothing to live for now u guys.  I have no family or friends.  I have been having suicidal thoughts lately , wondering if it would be easier if i was just dead.  The only thing stopping me is the pain it would casue my brother , having already lost both our parents.  I dont know what to do or who to turn to.  I havent eaten much really in about a week and a half.  I have hardly even left my apartment.  im so lost and alone

Posted 3/24/2007 1:17 AM (GMT 0)
we were gonna try and make it work , i would drive to see her every two weeks and she would drive to see me every two weeks . Now she wasnts nothing to do with me . Why does life have to be so painful. I had one good thing in mylife which was my g/f and now she is being taken away from me . I dont even want to wake up in the morning. I sleep for like 11 hours and wake up at 11 30 am in time to start work at 1230 pm. And i still feel tired , i cant even concentraten at my job so im pretty sure thats whythey are firing me. Oh my goodness i dont know what to do, no one wil hire me the way i am now.
Posted 3/24/2007 1:01 PM (GMT 0)
Myu

I am very sorry. And life has alot of events that mold you in the future..they are hard to get through but,you are strong and can do it.

It is time to see a doctor my friend. If this depression is hitting you that hard.
Talk to the HR Dept at work, and let them know what is going on with you. Hopefully if you agree to get treatment they will be willing to work with you. But you have got to follow through.
It is time to start healing,and moving on...and you are not able to do that by yourself.
Breaking up with someone is very hard I know that..but it is something that you go through more than once in life before you find the right person for you.
Here is some info I found on the net...please read it,and please please make that appointment today.

www.mayoclinic.com/health/depression/DS00175/DSECTION=2

Keep us posted and stay strong.

Shy
Posted 3/24/2007 1:41 PM (GMT 0)
myu, how are you? I am sitting here at my computer just hoping that you haven't done anything rash. Breakups HURT! Have you made an appointment to see a doctor yet? I know things look and feel really bleak now, but there is help out there.

I was fired from my job in January, and there were times when I thought I would NEVER get another job again. However, after I got help for my depression and started to feel better...about myself and about my job prospects, I was able to get another job. So I can tell you that there is hope, but you have to get treatment for the depression FIRST.

And keep coming back here, okay?

zinniagirl
Posted 3/24/2007 4:31 PM (GMT 0)
I agree, man. It's time to see a doctor. It's hard to take those first steps, but you'll be amazed at how much better you'll feel with a little therapy and perhaps an antidepressant. Just being proactive about the situation will help.

And, yeah, you need friends. I'm sort of in a similar situation in that I moved to my city for work and do not have friends or family here. Isolation is hard. I'm going to do volunteer work, though. To me it's a win/win situation: I get to help others, and I will meet other people while doing it. I'm interested in politics and so I'm going to get involved with that, too.

There are ways to overcome this, friend. It's not always easy, but you can do it.

My problem these days is actually anxiety, but several years ago I had crippling depression. I know what it's like, but better days ARE ahead!
Posted 3/25/2007 4:25 AM (GMT 0)
I am sincerely sorry to hear your story.  I guess that I can relate in some ways with you.  I have treatment resistant depression and recently had VNS surgery.  I also have lost the love of my life lately and I will tell you that there is not a day that goes by that I dont ask to die.  I keep waiting to die from a broken heart because I cannot imagine that my heart could possibly withstand this kind of pain.  My life was complete for 3 years and he gave me the world.  I look back now and wish I could have done things differently.  I MISS HIM SO MUCH AND EVERYTHING REMINDS ME OF WHAT WE SHARED.  I TRULY LOST THE BEST MAN IN THE WORLD!!  I guess I am saying that I can relate with the loss of someone.  I have noone as well as my mom (my only support since the loss of my relationship)lives in Raliegh, NC.

I am a mom of three children one lives with me and he is 6.  I try to put on a face every day so that he doesn't have any idea of what I am feeling but it shows.

I guess the only thing that I do is keep the faith that God will bring him back to me someday.  He has made it clear that he cannot be with me anymore and that it is over.  He is a man of his word and I did truly hurt him.  I just pray that I can withstand another day until the day comes that he comes back or God grants me the ability to be happy again.  Right now, I don't ever see myself being happy without all the goodness I have cost myself.

I will keep you in my prayers.

sad  

Posted 3/27/2007 12:25 PM (GMT 0)
Myu
I am just wondering how you are these days?
Please touch in and let us know.


Shy
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