looking for some advice and support about a loved one suffering from depression

I am glad that you have found us here and I hope that you find all the support you need. There are loads of people on HW that have partners/spouses with depression so there should be a mine of experience. Unfortunately, in terms of experience, I cannot help you but I am curious as to how long your b/f has had depression and how old he is. Is he not receiving treatment by choice? If his depression is affecting his life then he should be talking to someone about it so that it doesnt escalate. Sometimes AD's can help give people a boost which helps them get the most out of talking therapy.

Please keep talking to us and we will support you in any way we can

Darren

hi mary.  i have been dealing w/ depression and anxiety for as long as i can remember...i remember at age 5 being depressed and anxious.  my best advice to you is to not get mad or angry, and realize it has nothing to do w/ you or your relationship.  loved ones oftentimes take it personally, but i believe depression is completely organic and related to chemical imbalances w/in the body.  when someone can't see, they wear glasses.  when someone is depressed, they seek treatment.  just try to be understanding, and what you are doing now is so great.  education about the illness will help him more than you know.  i think if you offer to help him find a therapist -- maybe sit in the waiting room the first session just to let him know you accept him, and you don't think he is being weak or inadequate.  its so ok to need help, and i hope he is able to find someone!