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Posted 10/28/2007 6:04 AM (GMT 0)
Well a few months ago, My boyfriend and I broke up suddenly. There was no reason to it. he just broke up with me.  I still sit here today, completely in love with him..  wondering if there will ever be another chance between us. I can safely say, even though I am a teenager, I have gone through enough pain to know what love is and I'm sick of everyone telling me that I'm too young too know what love is. I can also say that I do love this boy with most of my heart and I wish he would understand that. He was the most amazing guy I had ever been with.. I have to say, being without him, and having to see him and deal with him everyday is very hard for me. I really want to talk to him about it, but I'm too shy. and i know i shouldn't think thoughts like that but it's horrible. I cry every night over this guy and when i tell my friends about it all they say is "you're too good for him. or you can do better than him"

 

The only problem is, I think he could do better than me. Is that so horrible? I mean, I love him...more than anything. believe me, i do. does anyone know what i can do about this??

 

Reason for edit:

 

I have had to take a section of your post out in line with rule #1. (https://www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=46&m=106997) Darren

Post Edited By Moderator (djdaz_1985) : 10/28/2007 6:00:20 AM (GMT-6)

Posted 10/28/2007 6:07 AM (GMT 0)
I forgot to mention something in there::

The only thing that makes me so persistant with him is that, he leads me on ... but he doesn't say anything to me. He will tell half of the people he knows that he still loves me, and the other half that he doesnt. and I'm too scared to ask him myself, I really want to force myself too, but i'm scared that when i do force myself to, it will be too late and he will have had moved on already ... :(

anyone want to help me out? :(:(
Posted 10/28/2007 12:06 PM (GMT 0)

Hiya,

It doesnt sound like he is being very fair and perhaps it is not worth persuing? What have you got to lose by asking him how he feels? If he says no, then nothing changes... if he says yes then you get what you want. I think you need to decide if he is what you really want and then either go for it or leave it. As it stands though, he is certainly not being very fair to you or his friends

Darren

Posted 10/28/2007 3:25 PM (GMT 0)
I agree with djdaz, actually it sounds to me that he may be adding to your depression.  You are walking on egg shells and noone is worth that.  You describe how wonderful he is but obviously the goodness you see is possibly manipulation.

 

I would seriously consider this relationship and how it makes you feel.

 

And by the way, dont ever think that you are never good enough for anyone!!!!!!!

 

Good luck

Posted 10/28/2007 9:18 PM (GMT 0)

Hello, this is Kitt.  I so agree with the others who have posted.

You are a worthy person and deserve respect, so do not ever think you are not good enough for "him".

I know this is difficult for you and you feel sad, but trust me, if he is treating you like this now he probably would not change a lot in a long term relationship.  Do you want to tie yourself to someone who cannot be counted on to be honest and forthright with you?

Take care and keep posting here.  We care.

Kitt

Posted 10/28/2007 10:29 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you for your kind words Darren, Teresa, and Kitt. I've put much thought into them and I will give it a try.


-Butterflyfour.
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