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Posted 3/11/2008 2:49 PM (GMT 0)
ok, so my husband and i have been having issues...i'm learning to deal with my bipolar and all that stuff..but i have a strong feeling that my husband also has some serious issues...there are days when he's wonderful and fun to be with but there are days when the smallest thing sets him off and he's just so very angry...there are days when he talks about going to school, making rank, going to ranger school but then someone says something to him and he's hating life, he can't stand the army, and a bunch of other rantings...he doesn't think he has a problem and i don't know if i can handle the negativity anymore, i want him to try to be positive and be happy for each day but i just don't know if i have the strength to try to fight for him and our marriage...he has anger issues, he also has some serious PTSD(but he's infantry and there's nothing wrong with him) i'm don't know what to do anymore
Posted 3/11/2008 4:22 PM (GMT 0)

Hi Heather,

Im a bit confused over the PTSD issue. Does he have it or not? It might be me being a bit thick, so appologies in advance if it is! lol

I think the cold, honest truth is that if he is stuck on the idea that there is nothing wrong and that he doesnt need to change, then he wont. A person can only change properly if they can see a reason for it. Have you talked about marriage councilling with him? Has he any official medical diagnoses? (Such as depression etc...) and if so, does he take any medications or do any therapy to help them?

Darren

Posted 3/11/2008 5:46 PM (GMT 0)
hi heather,

i think the best thing that you could do is talk to him honestly and openly

because by the sounds of it you need to concentrate on yourselve. you should try and only listen to the positive things in life this will make you gain confidence. i know this might sound funny but i think that you should try writting your thoughts and feelings down it might help.

hope you are feeling better soon, and my advice has helped.

Posted 3/11/2008 6:13 PM (GMT 0)
Writing things down can be very therapeudic. Keeping a journal so to speak. I highly suggest that.

Good idea TEZZAG!

Karen
Posted 3/11/2008 6:19 PM (GMT 0)
he has PTSD, sorry i'm so use to the army telling us that there's nothing wrong with him that my attitude sometimes gets in my way...he was diagnosed by a civilian doctor but the army doesn't want to recognize the dx...but in a good way his chain of command is finally getting involved after me going in 5 times to ask for help for him, they ordered him to go to counseling and anger management classes...so i'm gonna keep my fingers crossed...maybe this is what he needs to help him get thru everything
Posted 3/11/2008 8:15 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry that he has to go through this. Keep pushing with the ptsd, even if you have to have the civilian doctor to help. This is so sad to me. Was he in active duty? They often don't want to acknowedge what has happened to their men, so don't let them disreguard this. It is important to his mental health to get help.

hUgs, Karen
Posted 3/11/2008 9:29 PM (GMT 0)

Hi there Angel,

I understand now. I have a long family history in the military (Army and Navy) and I understand that the military has a jaded view when it comes to mental illness. PTSD is something members of the British Armed Forces have been fighting to have recognised for many years. Things are better than they were but it is still swept under the carpet sometimes. All you can do really is keep fighting for the recognition. What do the Army say is wrong? If they are saying there is nothing to diagnose, then they are effectively saying that your partner is faking the symptoms... this is something I would bring up with them.

Darren

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