Denial, denial, denial

My husband was diagnosed with depression and was given a two-week sample of Lexipro.  He was supposed to go back to the psychiatrist after two weeks, but delayed his appt. and was off the medication for about six days.  The psychiatrist gave him a two-week sample of Lexipro again and now he has to go for a follow-up visit.  After that, he'll hopefully be given a prescription.  My question is why wouldn't the psychiatrist just give him a prescription for Lexipro on his second visit?  He's not being straight with me about what she said.  Is she doing the two-week trial again probably because he didn't follow instructions properly the first time around?  I found out that the last day he was on the first trial, he had a couple of beers.  This is such a circus!  Can anyone who is depressed explain why denial is so prevalent?  On top of that, he has a hard time swallowing pills.  Is Lexipro small enough to swallow?

I'm ready to hang it up with him because he's so defensive about everything.  We've been separated for four months and I have no way of knowing whether or not he'll take the medication.   Thanks for sharing your thoughts.   

Lexapro is a very small pill. It is easy to swallow. At least the ones that I saw were small. Your husband doesnt' sound like he is taking his depression seriously. Does he normally drink beer? A couple of beers isn't going to really hurt anything, I don't think, but as long as he isn't doing it a lot. But so many people don't realize that alcohol is a depressant, and even if you just drink a little daily, it will still make you depressed.

I hope that things work out between the two of you. You sound like such a sweet caring person. But remember to take care of you and let him work his out. He has to want to get better and he has to do this himself. You can be there to support him, but he has to do the work.

As Kitt says, you may need some support for your self through this, so think about counseling for you. It never hurts to have some back up. And reinforcement for yourself.

Also, keep coming here, we are here to help you as much as possible.

Hugs, Karen

Well,
I think that he knows that his daughters are not capable of handling his negativity. So maybe he is more conscious of what he says to them. You know we always hurt the ones we love. I think that he is more himself around you, figuring that you will understand. Or that you are stronger then the daughters and will handle it. I know it isn't right, but he can be himself more with you. So that is what he does. I don't think that he means to hurt you, it just comes out that way. Once he is thinking clearer, I am sure that he will apologize to you.

So keep trying, don't give up on things, take care of you during this difficult process. You desserve some self nurturing. Try not to take it personal. I don't think he means to hurt you. Depression is a hard way to go. Are you going to any counseling? I think that you could use the extra support.

Keep your chin up,

Luv and hugs, Karen