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Posted 12/15/2008 9:35 PM (GMT 0)
No matter what I do, or meds I take. I can't find a way to control my temper. I have tried and I use to not be this way, I was a very happy go lucky person all the time, full of energy. Well for the past 3 years I have struggled with depression and anxiety. New medication every month, which I still can't find one that makes me feel better. But my attitude can change so quickly, from just calm to super angry, and from the littlest thing. If my boyfriend or anyone really says anything that offends me, I get REALLY UPSET, too upset. I over-react like crazy. I am trying to control it better but its difficult sometimes. I just feel angry so much now. Anyone have any suggestions or advice? :(
Posted 12/15/2008 11:36 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Trish,

First of all, welcome to the forum.

The fact that you recognize your anger is a start. Do you go to any counseling? That would really help you. When you get angy, realize that it only makes you feel worse. You have the power to not react to things that tick you off. Use that power.

I use to have anger issues until I realized, life is too short. Then I changed the way that I looked at things, and most of the time, nothing is worth getting upset over. Try thinking like that.

Best wishes, keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 12/16/2008 12:29 AM (GMT 0)

Hello Trish,

Welcome to the Depression Forum, we are glad you have joined us.

Anger is a natural human emotion

Yet, if not well managed, anger can cause a lot of troubles such as conflicts at workplace, fights in the family, rejection of others, loneliness. Anger damages personal relationships. You may say that in this case, it is desirable to get rid of this emotion for good.

Remember that anger is not wrong as it is a normal human emotion. We are born with the ability to feel anger.

There are times when we should get angry and stand up for our rights or the rights of others who cannot do it for themselves.

It is when this anger is not controlled that we get into trouble so please don’t let your anger consume you. You need therapy and your physician for a good medical check up to be sure you have no other problems causing the anger.

Bless you and know we care.

Kitt

Posted 12/16/2008 1:51 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you for your responses.

 

I  was doing group therapy but I didn't like it at all.

It was a small group only about 4 females. But most of them

were there for suicide attempts, which didn't relate to me at all.

I really just didn't like the group thing. I am still looking for a good

counsler in Arizona. But its hard to find one sometimes, and my lack of energy ,

doesn't help either.

 

Life is short you are right about that.

Thats what makes me so mad too, because I just want to be a free spirit like I was.

 

Thanks so much for your responses keep em coming! :)

Posted 12/16/2008 9:21 AM (GMT 0)
Heej Trishy!

You say you get angry too much. You are also really offended soon. Maybe you could try to look to the mental cure instead of medicines as well. The opposite of anger is patience and tolerance. Getting angry when you are offended is a basic defence mechanism, and kicks in so fast you are already full of rage before you know it. Patience, and the other hand, will make you aware first, and after that you decide whether to let the anger take control.

You can train patience by meditation, and of course practising to stay in control of your emotions when you are offended. It doesn't matter whether you realize it once it is too late, because every time you notice anger has arrived or taken over, you will learn. Eventually, you will be able to notice the anger before it has taken over, and calm down. It is hard work to get there, but I think it is worth it.

If you are interested in this method of practising patience, let me know! There are resources that explain it a lot better than I can.

Take care Trishy!
Erik
Posted 12/16/2008 6:56 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Trishy

I also have problems with anger and i to can overreact to silly small things. I suffer with GAD and Depression and a lot of my anger builds up because i am constantly trying to hide my emotions and how i am feeling from other people and eventually these emotions build up and come out as anger. My anger has caused problems and i have fallen out with family members and damaged personal relationships.

My anger happens very quickly and is sometimes hard to control, i find that walking away from the situation can really help and deep breathing helps also i found going through therapy also helped me and think it would be good for you to try some one on one therapy rather than group therapy and you could also talk about your anxiety and depression which may reduce your anger just a suggestion.

I hope things start to improve for you soon, keep posting to tell us how you are getting on.

Take Care
Posted 12/17/2008 5:19 AM (GMT 0)

Hi Trishy,

focus that anger on the depression and get out there and fight it.  Make a list of the goals you want to accomplish each day and just do them.  If you don't complete your list just carry over to the next day what your going to do.

Do you have any hobbies or something you have always wanted to try?

We are here for you.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt

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