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Posted 2/10/2009 2:18 AM (GMT 0)
I feel like kind've a failure.  My life is very good but I am feeling unaccomplished and a failure in my relationships.  I have stayed home with my daughter for over a year now and am so glad to but hate to say i feel bored.  Feeling like a failure in relationships is getting me down lately also.  I have kind've a hot and cold relationship with my dad and his side of family and my sister hates me.  I am close to my mom and my husband and am so thankful for that.  I don't really have any good friends.  I have been slowly drifting from everybody since I got married and moved away.  This is pathetic sounding but going on facebook makes me feel like a loser.  I see friends on there that I don't really talk to a lot anymore and see they have 3 times the amount of friends I do.  I know it doesn't matter how many people you know but I am jealous that my old friends have good friends and don't need to talk to me anymore.  I kind've feel forgotten.  And I don't understand why I seem to have such a problem getting along with others.  It never seems easy. It used to be.  I felt I had lots of friends and that people liked me.  I think my best friend in hs was always jealous of me because she was quiet and not noticed by guys and I was.  I always tried to support her.  then she went to college and made tons of friends and I feel like even though she talks me it just seems like I am part of her past that she doesn't want to revisit if that makes sense.  It was like she had moved on and didn't need me anymore.  Gosh it hurts. 
Posted 2/10/2009 2:48 AM (GMT 0)
Lonelygirl,

First of all, you are not a failure, so try to put that thought to rest. Permantly. You are a wonderful person worthy of friendship and love. Remember that.

Things change and so do people. You make friends, you grow apart and then you eventually make new friends. Do you do anything where you can get out among new people? How about going to a coffee shop or a book store. Or picking up a hobby class somewhere?

Try not to compare yourself to others. You can have many friends or you can have a few freinds that might be closer. A lot of people have acquaintances. And they aren't really friends. But comparing yourself will either make you bitter or vein. Because there will always be greater and lesser people than yourself.

I hope that this helps in some small way and that you start feeling better about yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than that trees and the stars, you have a right to be here. Always remember that.

Hugs, Karen
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