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Posted 7/20/2009 4:53 AM (GMT 0)
Sorry guys,, this is my second post today. I'm catching up on reading everyone's, but I need some advice.

I always seem to be arguing with my boyfriend. I love him dearly, but I miss him when I dont see him. We got in alittle argument today, because he said I "seemed mad because he has school/work and not time for me(myself)". but im not mad. i just miss him. he said I don't "support" him, which i do.

I want to get him something to say I'm sorry, like an actual gift. Because I am sorry. I'm just not sure what.

I'm terrified to leave for school next month, because I"m pretty sure our relationship is gonna fall apart. And I know it'll be my fault because I left. I have to do what's right for me-and thats leaving. But that also means our relationship will be strained. I don't know how to talk to him :'(
Posted 7/20/2009 5:53 AM (GMT 0)

Hi Taryn, i am sorry you are feeling this way. Its a big upheaval to move and go away to college. you know how you are worried that your boyfriend will split with you because of the move? then i dont believe he deserves you. you should be able to feel 100% comfortable and secure in your relationship- but you sound like you have doubts. have you sat down and really talked this through with your boyfriend? maybe hes feeling scared too.

You also said that you "are pretty much arguing all the time". Is that really healthy for you? you need to look after yourself- and be as stress free as possible. Could the conflict you are experiencing be a part of your depression?

You are worthy of happiness, stability, security and inner peace.

Maz XX


Posted 7/20/2009 7:43 AM (GMT 0)
agree with maze. all the best. jamie
Posted 7/21/2009 3:18 PM (GMT 0)
Haven't I seen this thread before? If you are constantly arguing, break it off! Arguing is not healthy in a relationship and things will only get worse. I know it is easier said than done, but I've been there, done that. People might tell you that arguing is healthy, but it's not.

Stop blaming yourself for his inability to cope. It's his problem, not yours. You both have to do what you have to do.

This is an ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP. IT'S NOT A GOOD THING. He is abusing you by making you feel guilty.

15. No SHOUTING.  Remember, using CAPITAL LETTERS in posts is considered yelling and rude, plus it is difficult to read. 

Post Edited By Moderator (Mazfire) : 7/29/2009 4:31:11 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 7/29/2009 1:15 AM (GMT 0)
raze,
thank you for your advice, but im not in an abusive relationship. I just wanted to say thanks to everyone though for the advice
Posted 7/29/2009 10:39 PM (GMT 0)

Raze I am sorry I had to edit your post- I am sure you dont intend to come across as agressive, but the capital letters telling Taryn she is in an abusive relationship is considered yelling. I know you are helping with advice but its important to remember that some people come here in a fragile state and its important to adress everyone with some diplomacy. From what Taryn has said, her relationship is complicated, not abusive.

I know you dont believe in 'sugar coating' and I agree with you on that, but there are polite ways to to make your point. You also said "havent i seen this post before?" You most likely have, its an older post and has been bumped up by Taryn replying.

Respectfully,

Maz

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