Too sensitive a subject?

Hey Frank,

I don't know what you mean about being bumped off of another forum.  Were you banned from the site? 

I don't know if this is too sensitive of a subject, I don't know how the members would react to it.  I do know that I have lately realized mortality.  As I had to have my dog put to sleep.  I now think of people dieing and other pets dieing, it makes me sad.  But I must say that I do have the good memories of when she was alive.  And also people that I have lost. 

I am not afraid to die myself, I just don't want to suffer.  In fact in my opinion, living is harder than dieing at times.  I see you are suffering from fear.  I haven't read your post on the other forum, I am just going by what you have written here thus far. 

I will tell you now, that all your worrying about death, is causing you to not live.  You are probably just biding time so to speak as you are filled with worry about the inevitable.  We are all going to die, but I believe that there is more to our lives, and that we will all be together in the next life.  But that is something we don't necessarily want to get into as there are people with a lot of different opinions on religion, and that is not to be discussed on the forum either.  I must mention to you that you are here for a reason.  And that is to live.  So instead of fearing the worst, why don't you go for the best and live? 

Have you discussed this with a counselor?  You could get guidance to a new way of thinking and you will be much happier.  You would not live in fear.  And anxiety.  I really want to encourage you to try to live in the moment.  Not to worry about the future, or dwell on the past.  Not to fear something that you have no control over.  Accept the fact that one day you wont be in existance in this world.  So you should enjoy the time that you do have.  I am giving you permission to live your life to the fullest.

Best wishes to better days for you.

Hugs, Karen

I see Frank,

Well, let's try and see what happens. As long as we can keep religion out of the subject, we can see where it goes. I guess I have to say that remember death is a part of life. I don't know why, but that is what they say. And I don't know who they are. lol...

I lost my first husband to lung cancer in October of 2000. It was a Saturday. Sweetest day. Around 9:00 am. I was there holding his hand when he passed. I have to say that when he died he had the most relieved and pleasant look on his face, and I felt the energy leave his body. I know that this is spooky. But it actually happened. Death is interesting to me at times. I have watched many people in the process of dieing. I see a transition that many people might not see, or might not want to see. And I guess I believe in the after life, because I want something to be there. I don't want to think that we are nothing after we leave this world. Though I did read a little on the anxiety forum and I understand that see that you don't believe, so maybe we should not go there. Talk about getting off topic. Sorry. I know that you are here to address your fear and how you would like to over come that. I really didn't mean to get off topic. I think losing my dog is making me think too much lately. I hope that you can understand.

So please ask questions, and we will see if there is anyway that we can help you to go into the proper direction. What ever is most healing for you. You might not get a lot of replies as it is Thanksgiving weekend and I don't know how many people will be on the forum. I have to work this weekend so I wont be here alot, but some. I hope that you are able to find your answers.

 

I want to give you a site to check out.  It is just a poem by Max Ehrmann.  I find it consoling to me when I am in need of some peace.  http://www.freewebs.com/crys

 

Thought that this might make you feel better.  It let's you know that you have the right to live as much as anybody else.  I think your mind and way of thinking is standing in the way.  Not that your beliefs are wrong, by no way would I say that.  We are all entitled to believe what we want to.  But I feel like your thoughts are standing in the way of you being able to relax with life.  And once you do, you will be so happy and content.  You have that right, you have the permission.  You are alive. 

 

Take care Frank

 

Hugs, Karen

You are welcome...

Hugs, Karen

jamiee,

Thanks, it did take more effort on my part, after being bumped from the other forum. Part of the problem is that I do enjoy life, usually, and so it would be sad to have to leave it.

Frank

Sorry I've been away for a while. Sometimes it's hard to get private computer time.

A couple thoughts--there's that song from Sleepless in Seattle, called something like Wee Small Hours of the Morning, about the time of day when you are free from other distractions of the day, and that's when you remember something sad (in the movie, the loss of a spouse). That's also the time when my fears can hit. On the other hand, my fear has saved me in a sense. Like a lot of people in this forum, I thought about suicide at some point. But I was too afraid of what death might bring. So, I'm still here.

Frank

frank i have been down that path many a time, and yes on a few occassions i am lucky to still be here. i am a s/ab survivor, physical and psychological survivor, i have had 28 psych adnissions, 6 private and lengthy, many therapists, psychologists and shrinks, was in full-time therapy for 4 and a half years straight, did a 6 month inpatient stay for a program for people with severe borderline personality disorder. 2004. have had a course of treatment, ECT. six. been on the med merry go round, was homeless for 2 years, stayed in emergency accom for 3 months and 2 years in a salvo mens refuge, a dive. have lived rough, streets, along time, was kicked out of my mothers house, have struggled with family, ie, i am the messed up one. have had many personal loses, incl my lady in o6. very sudden. fell foul to addictive behaviours, have self destructed on many occassions as well. i have and are still being used by one family member, and her defunct partner has done some stuff to me that i can not say. too graphic, she lives up the road, my sis but have not been inside her place for 2 years now. i will not be alone with person.


have more to say, but i think you understand, i have been through alot. so, i wrote this so i could hopefully positively impact on you, for things have and are improving, still a lot of demons, albeit i no longer live in the past.......forward my friend. keep well and safe. jamie.


(Hi Jamie -- just changed a little "language" -- I know you were "shielding" it, but it was clear anyway: thanks, serafena)

Post Edited By Moderator (serafena) : 12/6/2009 3:07:33 PM (GMT-7)

1. sorry for not sheilding it. and for the expression. jamie.

yes, will compile some stuff later. jamie. keep well. back later, coffee, cricket resuming, australia v west indies, test, final day of the second test. cheers, jamie