Posted 5/18/2010 10:12 PM (GMT 0)
Hello all, I am brand new to this forum and I am in need of some advise and words of encouragement. Let me tell you a little about myself and my beautiful wife. The two of us have been together for about eight years. We are married and have a beautiful 3 and 1/2 year old son. My wife has struggled with anxiety since we met, but recently she has been severly depressed. She has had a couple of break downs involving depression, alcohol, and bolimia. She saught counceling for the bolimia for a short time, but didn't see it through. Last week I received a disturbing phone call from her while I was at work. She was intoxicated and in the middle of an emotional break down. She informed me that she had called 911 and they were coming to get her. She could feel the on set and asked one of the nieghbors to take our son. I left work immediately, and upon arriving home the local PD was there along with EMT's. She decided to go with them volentarily and was committed for 96 hours. I love this woman to death, and it destroyed me to see her like this. I want to see her well, I love her so much and she is an amazing mom. But this episode was so scary and my son witnessed the entire episode. While committed my wife was diagnosed dual dissorder (mood dissorder, bolemic) border line alcoholic as well. She is beginning Intensive Out Patient treatment today, and it includes a family treatment day. My question is: How do I find support groups for spouses of depressed loved ones. And for those of you that have dealt with this how do I best prepare myself to be as supportive as I can be without being an enabler? As I have mentioned I am not the kind of guy that walks away from problems. I meant what I said when I took my vows. "For better or worse, and in sickness and in health" I love this woman with all of my heart and want to be there in the right capacity to help her through this, but I realize I may need help as well. Thank you all for listening. I look forward to your responses.