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Posted 7/14/2010 10:46 AM (GMT 0)
i have suffered with depression on and off for 7 years now , but at the moment i am having a very bad episode, i feel i am worth nothing , cant be bothered to do anything and just want to sit in my own four walls, i am a single mum of 2 girls and their dad used to tell me i a fat , ugly and no man would want me , i just cannot get this out of my head , i have just ended a relationship with a chap who is at the moment going through his own problems , i know he cant give me what i need in a relationship cos of his own problems at mo but in my head its because im not worth anything and have nothing to offer, friends and family say i need to snap out of it but its easier said than done , i am constantly crying and sometimes cant stop , any help would be greatly recieved , (already been on prozac for seven yrs and my doctor is brilliant , i just need some outside help )

 

Posted 7/14/2010 12:26 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, sorry you are suffering so much....and folks just telling you to snap out of it, is not so helpful.

Even though your doctor is brilliant - psychiatrists and GPs are not always the best at counseling. It really sounds like you need to be referred to a counselor so you can get those crummy tapes out of your head that that guy put in there about your having nothing to offer - etc.... You have much to offer, I can tell that in your post. By the way, I am a chubby girl too, and my hubby has never said a thing about it. Size has absolutely nothing to do with who you are.

I am on prozac as well (fluoxetine for 19yrs), and it is a great drug, but it sounds like you could use an anti-anxiety med right now to help you through this rough spot.

Please make a call today to get a counselor. You will be glad you did.
Posted 7/14/2010 12:41 PM (GMT 0)
thankyou for replying , if someone just listens it can help , ive not really looked into anti anxity drugs so perhaps thats something i should think about , once again thankyou
Posted 7/14/2010 1:02 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Htd14

Welcome to the HW Depression Forum, I am so pleased you have reached out for help from us and we will try and help you and support you as much as we can.

I wrote you a long post a little while ago but it logged me out and I had to log back in and I lost the post, so I will try and remember what it was I wrote.

You have heaps to offer those two little beautiful girls that you have, you are their world at the moment, you're the parent that has stuck by them, who lives with them, teaches them how to become good adults, you're the one putting food on the table and tucking them into bed at night, so please don't ever doubt that you have nothing to offer, just look at your girls and that thought should go straight out of your mind.

Don't even give a thought to what the ex said, he was just hitting out at somebody and it happened to be you in the firing line. I think your self esteem has taken a huge battering though, so maybe seeing a counsellor and going on some meds might be good for you. You'll pick yourself up because you are strong and those little girls need you to be strong and healthy and thinking straight.

I hope you can go to the doctor and talk to him about seeing a good counsellor and also the meds. Keep posting and let us know how you are going.
Posted 7/14/2010 3:48 PM (GMT 0)
thankyou for yr kind words , u have all helped already just by replying to my message and although i wouldnt wish depression on my worst enemy it is helpfull to know im not on my own , i am going to find out about spa treatment as i think a bit of me time is needed ,

thankyou

helen
Posted 7/14/2010 4:05 PM (GMT 0)
hi siobhan, i am so glad i found this website, i do feel better at the moment but am going to docs tomorrow to see about counseling as well , i have read some comments on here and understand u also have depression , i do not want to pry but if u need to talk please dont hesitate to contact me on here or my msn address is posted as well, sometimes it helps just to have someone to listen take care

helen xx
Posted 7/14/2010 4:23 PM (GMT 0)
Hi htd14,

I just wanted to welcome you to the HW forum.  It sounds like you are getting help already and that is great.  We try to understand and give support.  I think this is a wonderful group.

Please keep posting and know that we do care about you.  We are not professionals though and I do think some counseling would give you even more support.  Keep in contact with us.  We will do what we cna to help you.

Hugs, Karen

Posted 7/16/2010 12:15 PM (GMT 0)
i have only joined today , i posted on the arthritis board, but looking through the forums i saw your post,im from the older generation and brought up to keap things in, well since iv been ill iv found its best to let it allout just say it as it is, it looks like your gona have lots of careing friends on here, and i wish you luck in fighting your depresion,
Posted 7/16/2010 2:11 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Muletrain,

I just wanted to welcome you to the forum.  You have found a great place to let things out and talk.  Everybody here is so compassionate and understanding.  There is a lot of support that goes on here.

Keep posting and tell us a little about yourself.  If you would like to start a thread of your own, feel free to do so.  Just click on "NEW TOPIC" and go from there.

Hugs, Karen

Posted 7/17/2010 1:07 PM (GMT 0)
hi muletrain, groovy name. i am jamie. male 37. wanting to welcome you also to this wonderful community. with compassion, jamie.

ps i look forward to sharing with you. take care.
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