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Posted 8/12/2010 5:05 PM (GMT 0)
I've always had lots of energy, but find myself turning 42, a mother of teenagers and what should be a "dream" job....but frankly, I'm not in a good space.  My depression started a few years ago and spiralled after finding out about my husbands affair...we worked through it in counseling and we are "back on track", I love him, but I am still feeling compromised, wounded despite all the good work we have done to work on the marriage and friendship.  I don't know what else to do...he seems to have let it go, but I can't...it's affecting my quality of life and I don't want it to...i am on a decline...sigh Any suggestions?  Thanks--

PB & J (peace beauty and joy)

Posted 8/12/2010 5:50 PM (GMT 0)
Hi there,

Welcome to the HealingWell Depression forum.  I am glad that you have joined us.

It is so hard when the other person has an affair.  And I think it takes the innocent person (you) longer than the one who did the cheating.  I think it is because we feel betrayed and actually stupid.  And that is sad, because we didn't do anything wrong.  The other person did.  But we still suffer. 

Are you going to any counseling?  I feel it would give you support in this matter.  Help you get through this.  It hurts to be betrayed.  Some people never get over it. 

Just know that we are here to support you.  We understand what you are going through.  And we want to help you as much as we can.

Hugs, Karen

Posted 8/13/2010 7:13 AM (GMT 0)
karen is spot on. and i am here for you too. sending healing thoughts your way. jamie

aka, the mad professor.
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