Remarried but missing my ex abusive husband. Why?

Ok i know this doesnt make any sense. But I was married to my exhusband for 10 years. He became physically abusive at the 6 year mark when our only child was born. I think he was jealous of the attention the baby was getting. After 3 years of dealing with it and him refusing to get help i took my child and left. That was 4 years ago. Last year I remarried a man that has never laid a hand on me (that would take to much physical labor but thats another post for another day). But here lately for some reason I find myself missing him alot. He was my highschool sweet heart and the the first man i ever loved. I only have 1 child (that is mine by birth.) and he was my "first" I am hoping that those ties are what is making me miss him. He is also remarried and they seem so happy together. He was my best friend. I really miss my friend. But we have both moved on with other people. What's wrong with me?

Hi!
I understand you must feel there's something wrong with you, but as you said, he's the father of your child, your first love and "first" other person too... So I think I'd miss that person too. However, Karen is right and you should stay clear of someone who abused you!

Sometimes I find it useful to write a pretend letter to someone if I'm feeling a certain way but can't actually talk to them. Maybe try that, but don't send it, rip it up, and get rid of it.

Fruelien,

Welcome to the HealingWell Depression forum. I am sorry that you are going through this situation. I was thinking though if you start your own thread, you will most likely get advice to you. Tagging onto another thread often gets missed. So if you feel like it, please start a new thread with your own topic.

I hope that things get better for you.

Hugs, Karen