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Posted 8/28/2010 12:14 AM (GMT 0)
I had gallbladder surgery this past wednesday....I then spiked a fever and had to stay in the hospital for 2 nights. I find myself very sad and down in the dumps, even though I'm home now. I'm tired and in pain.....and the bankruptcy stuff is still staring me in the face. Sometimes it's just all too much.
Posted 8/28/2010 12:31 AM (GMT 0)
This is when you really need to take life one day at a time. Try not to let it overwhelm you. I know that it isn't easy, but say to yourself, "can I do anything to change this situation at the moment?" You know that the answer is NO you cannot change anything at this particular moment. Then you ask youself "Does worrying about what is going on going to change anything?" Another NO. So what do you do? You keep going on as if that situation does not exist. Taking it one day at a time. There is nothing that you can do by worrying about what is going on. So enjoy the moment for what it is worth. And that can be done. Enjoy every single moment, even though things are kind of going crazy. Live for the moment. Stay in the NOW. That is what gets us through to the next day. Then we may have to do it again. But we are happy when doing so.

I hope that things get easier for you. There is no magic potion that can save us, but we have eachother and that is what is important. The support that you will find here is wonderful and we all hope that things get a little easier for you. Take care, keep posting.

I hope that you are feeling better from your surgery.  Being that you have gone through that, your body is tired and so is your mind.  Give yourself a break and know that we are thinking of you.  Take a nice warm relaxing bath with some candles and music.  Enjoy the moment.

Hugs, Karen

Posted 8/28/2010 12:56 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Myjoy,

I know how you must be feeling. I had major colon surgery last fall and it made me sad

as well. I had so much pain that I just couldn't think about anything else. I think Karen

has given you the best advice. One day at a time is what will get you through till you are

back on your feet. Worrying about other things won't get them solved so concentrate on just recovering and making yourself feel better. If you need to vent just come here and let out your feelings. You know there is always someone here for support. I hope

you will be feeling better soon and write and let your HW friends know what we can do

for you. Take good care.

Many hugs,

Aurora

Posted 8/28/2010 1:11 AM (GMT 0)
I agree, one day at at time is the answer. Sometimes it's just one moment at a time. I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer and had a total thyroidectomy in 2004. That really laid me low for a while. Given that I'm prone to depression anyway, the stress of that operation on my body didn't help, but I made it through. I'll soon be facing another surgery (colectomy) and I'm hoping to make as swift a recovery (God willing) as possible.

Keep your chin up, even though things sometimes feel like they'll never get better, they always do.

God bless.

                                   G20man

Posted 8/28/2010 2:21 AM (GMT 0)
G20man,

I am sorry that you are facing another surgery coming up. Know that we are all here for you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 8/28/2010 9:17 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Myjoy

Sorry to hear you're not feeling great after your gall bladder surgery, I have had mine removed also and I think a little pain is normal for a few weeks but you will be surprised how quick you bounce back.

Hang in there, things will work themselves out and yes take one day at a time. I hope you feel better soon and I will remember you in my prayers tonight.

Keep posting and let us know how you are going.
Posted 8/28/2010 11:24 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks so much, everyone, for listening to my stuff. It is greatly appreciated. I feel a little better this morning, and my husband is only going to work until noon today so I'm not alone so long. I also think I figured our check book out wrong and we will soon be overdrawn (that has not happened in years). It makes me sick to think of it. My husband's one job is very late in paying him this time....so that is not helping.

Brother - I do need to take this one day at a time. Good advice.
Posted 8/28/2010 3:33 PM (GMT 0)
I am feeling more depressed as the day goes on. I just can't handle all this stuff.
Posted 8/28/2010 3:53 PM (GMT 0)
Myjoy, you can handle this and we are all here to help you do just that. I am very sorry that you are feeling depressed after your surgery. In a lot of cases I think that is almost to be expected when you consider that any surgery is basically an assault on your body. I've had many surgery in the past 9 years but the last two I have found myself feeling more depressed especially during the first 2-3 weeks post-op. Even to the point of thinking that I needed a change or increase in my anti-depressant. I never had to go that route but eventually as my body healed so did the increased depression. I think maybe you just need some time. I understand that you have lots of things going on other than just being post-op so please don't hesitate to talk to you dr if the feeling doesn't improve soon. Also remember to breathe, nice, deep, slow, relaxing breaths. It will help. You will find your way through this. Lisa
Posted 8/29/2010 11:17 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks, everyone for your uplifting remarks.
My snobby rich aunt and uncle contacted me through email that they want to come and visit next weekend. At that point, I broke down and sobbed for 2 hours. My husband came home from work and got me calmed down. Fortunately, my husband told me that he will be out of state on business next weekend. I'm going to spend that time with friends at the lake.......so, I emailed my aunt and uncle that a visit is just not going to work out right now. I feel much better getting that taken care of.
I'll fill you in as things happen this week. Thanks again.
Posted 8/29/2010 11:48 AM (GMT 0)
Good for you for saying "NO". I am really proud of you for that. It isn't easy, many of us would have put up with the snobby relatives. I am glad for you. I am happy that you are going out with friends. Have a great time and fill us in when you get back.

Hugs, Karen
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