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Posted 10/5/2010 6:35 PM (GMT 0)
Hi everyone! hopefully everyone is having a good day because i am not blush . So here is my story, i have had several bouts with anxiety throughout the last 5 or so years, only one that i took medication for. So recently me and the wife decided to have our first kid, and this has just sent things into a tizzy for me. It started with anxiety so i went to my GP Doc and got back on lexapro and i joined the anxiety forum here tongue . As many have experienced things got a lot worse before they got any better. So during my adjustment time i decided to go see a pdoc and start therapy. i also began to feel signs of depression soon after we upped the dose of lex from 10mg to 20mg. and over the last week its gotten really bad. long story short over the last 1.5 months i have been on lexapro 20mg and last week we added wellbutrin SR 100mg 2x per day. and i am seeing the therapist. This is my first bout with depression and i am very scared.

So here is my question are there any people here who do a fair amount of travel for work? i ask because i do, i am usually home for weekends but am gone probably 50-75% of weeks during the year. How do you handle traveling so much and being out of touch with your comfort zone? My wife is my comfort zone but i try not to talk too much about the depression when i am out of town because i think this just makes her worry more and feel like she can't help over the phone.

Also i'm trying to find a local support group but am not having any luck finding anything, anyone have any insight?

Sorry for such a long post, i really like this forum, i read several posts here that made me cry in a good way (which made me feel better today BTW), ok i'll shup now. turn
Posted 10/5/2010 7:57 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Geosojda,
I hope your day gets better. =)

I don't travel much for work but wanted to share a couple things with you. First, I do not think you're post was too long. Many of the folks in my group therapy worry about 'taking too much time' when they haven't at all. You deserve to say all you need to.

I'm scared too. Depression is scary! Not feeling like yourself, not seeing things as they are, feeling hopeless. These are scary things.

I hope that even though you travel, you can get to the forum while away from home. That might help with not being in your comfort zone. Not being there may be a blessing in disguise. I have a really hard time forcing myself out of mine which I think...well, let's say I don't think the option to remain in my house as much as I'd like has sped up my recovery.

Also, though I don't know your wife, I'll share my 'not talking about it'. My younger sister is married to a wonderful man with whom she has a young child. When I had to be admitted into the hospital because I was afraid of myself, she was in another state, at a hospital with her husband who was battling a rare form of cancer for the second time in a year. I didn't let my family tell her what was going on because I didn't want to worry her. She came home while I was still in outpatient and came to the family session. At the meeting she made me promise to never keep anything from her again. She said that no matter how full her plate was, there was always room for me, especially if I was holding up my end of the deal (taking my meds, going to therapy, etc). She also said that me NOT telling her made her worry more because maybe there was something she didn't know. Talking to her made her feel better because she didn't have to wonder. It is not always easy to keep this promise. Though I realize depression is an illness, it is difficult not to feel like I'm burdening her as she deals with her husband's terminal illness. Still, I have to trust her and take her at her word so if I'm not doing well, I no longer hide it.

Blessed be
SA
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