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Posted 10/9/2010 6:52 AM (GMT 0)
I've been suffering with depression for the past few years, sometimes I just feel like nobody cares about me, I often find myself crying and don't really know what I'm crying for, I fear going anywhere because I'm afraid I'll start crying, and people will laugh at me, I have no support what so ever, I just feel like I'm all alone, I've been married for a little over 2 years, and just recently my wife has been calling me names, and telling me that she wished she never married me and I'm worthless, I just don't know what to do anymore, I need to help, but I don't know where to find the help that I need for my depression, I've been on several different medications for depression and anxiety, but nothing has helped me, I don't have anyone who cares enough about me to talk to. I would apprieciate all the advice I can get.
Posted 10/9/2010 11:37 AM (GMT 0)
Hi solidrock, and welcome. Yes, you sure do sound depressed. I cry for no reason when that is happening to me. When you have gotten meds in the past, who prescribed them? A general practitioner or a psychiatrist? It's sure time to find yourself a good psychiatrist. I went through many before I found a good one. You proabably need a psychologist or therapist to help you talk things out too.

Your wife is certainly not helping. I'm sorry that is the case. She just may be frustrated with the situation - and is saying the first crud that comes into her head. Try not to dwell on that - look more to getting help for yourself. Contact your local hospital for lists of doctors and therapists in your area. Sometimes it takes several tries to get the right combination of meds. That takes patience and time. What meds have you been on?

Glad you came here to tell us what is going on. Keep talking. I am very fortunate to have a husband who understands all my stuff. I'll bet your wife will come around as you start to improve.
Posted 10/9/2010 7:11 PM (GMT 0)
Hi solidrock,

 

Welcome to HealingWell.  I am sorry things are rough for you right now. Your wife calling you names and sharing that she wishes she had never married you is something you may have to deal with when you get to feeling a bit stronger.  In the meantime remember she cannot take your diginity and self-worth away from you.  She does not make you who you are -  you do so be strong.

You have come to a great forum to find others who have depression and other problems.  I know how alone you can feel when you are depressed but remember there are many places to look for help and perhaps seeing a therapist for some one to one therapy may be a good way for you to go.  How about your church or other groups you may belong to,  can you find friendship there?

A good way to feel better about yourself is always through volunteering in any capacity you may choose. 

When I was at one of my low points I did not even want to take a walk as I knew I would cry from feeling sad and all alone.  My therapist told me to put my sun glasses on and just go for it.  So  I did that for short walks and took tissues along. 

So remember  there’s help all around you. Professionals are trained to offer support and comfort. Reach out to family and friends and to the members here in HealingWell.

Kindly,

Kitt

Posted 10/10/2010 1:05 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Solidrock,

The feeling that nobody cares about me is one of the toughest things I have to take issue with when I am depressed.  The more I think about no one caring about me, the worse my depression gets.  The worse my depression gets, the worse my self-esteem . . . seems like an endless cycle.

With your wife doing that to you - you definitely need to think of only one thing right now - you!  Until you can get yourself back on some kind of track, whatever issues you have in your marriage need to be back burner things.  I know that sounds like you're letting things in your marriage go, but you are not.  Being married myself and having depression has made things very tense at times.  But the more I find I help myself by going to therapy, etc, the more it helps the marriage.  As Kitt and MyJoy have said - find a therapist and find one that is good for you.  It will make a world of difference as to your outlook on things.

You're not worthless, and you have support.  I'm a newbie to the forum as well, and I can tell you in just a few short days, I have gotten some excellent advice, and more so - encouragement.  These are some great people here, and they understand what depression is and what it does.

Best, my friend.

Scythia

Posted 10/10/2010 8:01 AM (GMT 0)
I fully understand. A good place to start with help is your gp. He/she can refer you to someone whom is supportive and compassionate. Therapy really helps with understanding you, why, the when's etc. Back in therapy myself, from a very prolonged period. And I have done some serious therapy!!!! I found a very compassionate social worker from a service provider via my mate who was receiving assistance from the also.
With compassion, jamie. I am being seen on a sliding fee scale as well.
Posted 10/21/2010 5:32 AM (GMT 0)
Had depression for years - have been in 4 psychiatric wards - a lot of it was cause I felt was not loved - my husband slept beside me and did not care about me

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Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 10/21/2010 8:25:17 AM (GMT-6)

Posted 10/21/2010 2:28 PM (GMT 0)
CHATEL

I am sorry for the edit but we do not allow talk of suicide as discussions of suicide or self-harm are deemed negative and therefore potentially injurious to others.

Also, limited religious references are allowed (ie. "my prayers are with you" or a brief quote as part of a larger post), but the forums should not be used to convert others.

I am glad you have found what works for you and I hope you continue to keep on healing.

Kindly,

Kitt
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