Stressed

Hi Aquabutterfly,

I like your name. Welcome to the HealingWell Depression forum. I am sorry that your husband is giving you the cold shoulder. But remember, this is his problem, not yours. You can let him know that you know something is amiss and that you are there for him. But try to live your life as you usually would. Know that he has something on his mind, but it is up to him to talk about it. Like I say, let him know that the lines of communication are open on your end. I hope that this helps some. Remember he owns his problems, not you. You have enough of your own I am sure. We all do.

Hugs, Karen

Yes, smiling and talking to others is therapeutic. Some people like the saying fake it till you make it. But you can take some action if you so chose.
While it IS his problem, giving you the cold shoulder is not helping him solve it. Its not fair. You could tell him calmly that you don't know what's bothering him, but feel lonely, miss him. and think this way of behaving on his part is not good for the marriage.
Try not to feel so fearful. I have often felt that way to as my parents were cold shoulder folks, and altho the problem was between them, we all suffered. And us kids always thought that it was our fault, walked around on eggshells, and held ourselves responsible for not "helping". Cuz we never found out what the BIG problem was. Is this a repeat of how you grew up too?
You cannot read his mind or help him. And don't think it is you. Its actually a very childish way for him to behave and treat you.
You could suggest marriage counselling, or get counselling for yourself. You need someone understanding and knowledgeable to help you cope with him.
Hope something here helps.