adult ADD

Hi Worriedgirl,

I don't know if I am ADD, but I do have what is called fibrofog, and I have obsessive thinking. I think too much and dwell on the same thing. Therefore I am not paying attention to what I am doing a lot of the time. I practice mindfullness to help me concentrate on the task at hand. Work on being in the now. Focus on what you are doing. Often we look at the whole big picture and it is overwhelming. If you break things down to small tasks, you see a lot more progress.

I am not sure how the ADD is effecting you, but that is what I have had to deal with. I started taking a mood stabilizer and that helps me focus. I don't think this is going to change you at all. This is just something new to deal with. But you were probably subconsciously dealing with it anyway. Keep your chin up.

Hugs, Karen

So far, I have found this:

http://www.addforums.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=70

I hope that this helps you. 

Hugs, Karen

is it manageable? can i get better? if it is what i have can i become a more effective worker and housewife. i dont know why this fits but it does

i will have to see because going to another forum is change and i hate change and i hate the setup and i see things on there that upset me, for ex. a post was complaining about how people blame things on there ADD. well some people need to vent and talk. i dont feel comfy there like i do here. i think ADD is a disease it belongs here.

i want to post some things i have read about ADD then i will comment on them. it will be long but i want you to see what i do see.

“zoning out” without realizing it, even in the middle of a conversation.
extreme distractibility; wandering attention makes it hard to stay on track.
difficulty paying attention or focusing, such as when reading or listening to others.
struggling to complete tasks, even ones that seem simple.
tendency to overlook details, leading to errors or incomplete work.
poor listening skills; hard time remembering conversations and following directions

a tendency to become absorbed in tasks that are stimulating and rewarding. This paradoxical symptom is called hyperfocus.
poor organizational skills (home, office, desk, or car is extremely messy and cluttered)
tendency to procrastinate
trouble starting and finishing projects
chronic lateness
frequently forgetting appointments, commitments, and deadlines
constantly losing or misplacing things (keys, wallet, phone, documents, bills)
underestimating the time it will take you to complete tasks
frequently interrupt others or talk over them
have poor self-control
blurt out thoughts that are rude or inappropriate without thinking
have addictive tendencies
act recklessly or spontaneously without regard for consequences
have trouble behaving in socially appropriate ways (such as sitting still during a long meeting)
sense of underachievement
doesn’t deal well with frustration
easily flustered and stressed out
irritability or mood swings
trouble staying motivated
hypersensitivity to criticism
short, often explosive, temper
low self-esteem and sense of insecurity
feelings of inner restlessness, agitation
tendency to take risks
getting bored easily
racing thoughts
trouble sitting still; constant fidgeting
craving for excitement
talking excessively
doing a million things at once
Adults with ADD/ADHD often experience career difficulties and feel a strong sense of underachievement. You may have trouble keeping a job, following corporate rules, meeting deadlines, and sticking to a 9-to-5 routine. You may be fed up with constant nagging from loved ones to tidy up, listen more closely, or get organized. People may have labeled you “lazy” or “stupid” because of your forgetfulness or difficulty completing tasks, and you may have begun to think of yourself in these negative terms as well.

all of these things are things that i suffer from and have been suffering with for ten years. i am a procrastinator, if i dont set my clocks fast then i am late, i forget things and conversations, my mind wanders alot, i zone out if i am not interested, i have trouble starting and finishing tasks, i dont think before i speak, i often interupt, i cant focus on things that bore me, i talk excessively. i am oversensitive and everything else except the risk taking. dont you see how this fits.

karen i could pass it off as depression if i would have been depressed for the last ten years or more but since i have been dealing with this before i was depressed im thinking ADD. for example, 7 times my husband has asked me to fill out some paperwork and i have forgotten about it each time. i cant focus, i am having a hard time focusing on anything. i hate it. as he said i am a grown adult i shouldnt have to be reminded 7 times to fill out something.

today thanksgiving was good but i noticed my focus was horrible, i couldnt stay on track and it was a struggle. no one understands what i am going through and i dont think they ever will. i am told i am a drama queen(im sorry this guy should have cramps and see what i feel). i have been called everything from lazy to stupid. i am sorry i am not lazy i am just having problems remaining focused. i am noticing it alot more. i need to be able to focus and it is getting rough. i know its because i am waiting to see what the therapist says but darn this is rediculous.

i didnt like the other forum karen, they are not as welcoming or as patient and i totally felt unwelcome. it didnt bother me as much when i didnt know the why i just thought i was stupid but now i know the reason it means i can be helped and i want to get helped. i dont like change at all, and that is why i havent pushed as hard for a transfer as i need to, dont worry i will. change is scary for me and it means more confusion and more of a focusing issue. change is bad for me always has been, is that a part of ADD? I like this forum and would love to see ADD added on here but i will search for more but this will be my primary forum as i love this place.

maybe he will read this and see it is. maybe if enough members posted they would like one for ADD. i know of at least two that would welcome the site. i will keep posting here until i am told that i am not within the topic(although it would break my heart). i am trying to focus i am. but i get sidetracked. i know music helps to some degree, i use music when i drive or else i would lose my focus completely. i am honestly not sure in my life who i can tell and who i cant tell. im not even sure anyone will understand what i am going through or just think i am using it as an excuse. as for my job, i dont know how they will react and if they will treat me different. i just dont know. im really scared on what this means for me. tyoungmil has been very helpful and is trying to keep me on tract bless his heart. he has become a really good friend and i love him so, in a friendship way. karen and shuvy i also love you guys as you guys have followed my post. i kinda wish i could get more input but i love that you guys have.