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Posted 3/19/2011 7:00 PM (GMT 0)
hey everyone, im so upset right now becausse theres this boy in school and i really like him a lot. the thing is he was really kind to me to start off and he s straight and he didnt even mind that i liked him. infact he used to even go as far as to make sure noone was bullying me and always checked if i was ok, he was so nice to me. this lasted for quite a few months but then suddenly one day i just walked into school and i said hi to him and he just told me to **** off and told me i was a ****** and to never try and talk to him again! and that was it, he hates me hes now completely the opposite, he bullies me he even threatens me if i try and talk to him i dont understand,id love to know what i had done wrong?i really cant stand it because he was my friend and now he calls me really awful things and make s my life hell, and i still rreally like him, please help me! :(
Posted 3/19/2011 7:33 PM (GMT 0)
How old are you? Because young boys do stuff like that sometimes. I had that happen to me. I felt really bad and my feelings were hurt. But then there came another boy later on and I got on with life. Which will most likely happen to you too. I wouldn't want a guy that called me names. Try to forget about him and move on. You will eventually know why. He is just probably stupid for calling you that. Don't feel like you did anything wrong, because chances are you didn't. Take care.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 3/19/2011 8:27 PM (GMT 0)
thankyou Karen, im 16
i just really like him but i dont understand why people just change like that
Posted 3/19/2011 8:48 PM (GMT 0)
They just don't know what they want. And I know it really hurts. But in life, there will always be change. That doesn't mean that all people are going to change, because most people don't like change. I know it was hard for me at one point. I don't really have the answer why your boyfriend changed, only he does. But I don't think he knows what he wants and always know that when people do or say mean things to you it means that in reality, they aren't happy. Otherwise, why would they act that way? A happy person doesn't go around hurting others. All I can say is accept it. Let your feelings out when it is appropriate. Cry if you have to, ball your eyes out. But know that this is just a learning experience of many that you may have. Know for sure that this doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you because there isn't. It is him, not you. And maybe some people that he is hanging around with at the time, which was the case with me. Know that you are a good person. And you will feel better with time.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 3/19/2011 10:09 PM (GMT 0)
daniel,

Teens seem to be under a lot of peer pressure and so many want to be like their buddies or just be tough guys.

IMHO,  you did nothing wrong and this guy needs to be booted out of your life as he is not safe for you.

Although bullying is something that has gone on for generations, in recents years,  school boards have begun to realize what a serious and pervasive problem it truly is and have instituted zero tolerance policies.

Whether you are 16 or 60 it is hard to understand why people all of a sudden "don't seem to like you", so hold your head up high and know that things will get better.

Kindly,

Kitt

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