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Posted 4/6/2011 3:55 PM (GMT 0)
I am currently engaged, and everyone tells me I'm a push over and a doormat towards my fiance. I don't know how to explain to them that I just can't defend myself in some situations, and that I don't ever feel strong enough to. Also, I really do not like conflicts that involve me loosing the one that I love and care for. However, he does like to push my buttons, and make fights over little things such as; I forgot to text him or I didn't say I love you or Baby in a text message. I just don't know what to do? And how to react in these types of situations. This is just me, I've always avoided getting into a confrontation, because I knew I wouldn't be able to defend myself and I'd end up being the one to apologize. Is there some underlying problem such as depressionthat I should seek more psychological help for?
Posted 4/6/2011 5:49 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Mayak,

Welcome to the depression forum. It sounds like you need some self esteem and it sounds like your boyfriend is insecure too. If he is putting these demands on you now, it will probably only get worse. It sounds like the relationship revolves around him. Which isn't right for you.

You shouldn't be a doormat. I was too. But as you get older, you stop taking other people's crap. I don't like conflict either and avoid it as much as possible. But that doesn't mean that you should be treated badly because you don't speak up for yourself.

Maybe get some self help books on how to be more assertive. Everybody has that right. Also some books on self esteem. Once you gain that you might think twice about getting married. It doesn't sound like he is very mature or treats you right. Just my opinion of what I have read.

I hope that things work out for you. Again, welcome to the forum.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 4/7/2011 1:31 AM (GMT 0)
AGREE WITH KAREN. KEEP STRONG. JAMIE.
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