Hi Everyone,
I am not new to the forum but I am new to this area...I am really at a loss to help my hubby...He was diagnosed with Lupus about a year and a half ago after being hospitalized with H1N1 which now causes him respiratory problems and in being in the hospital and having hundreds of tests done, they find out he has Lupus...
He is on pretty strong medication..Imuran for his immune system and Warfarin for blood clots now for the rest of his life...The medications causes all kinds of side effects and he feels lousy all the time..He is only 47..We have 2 children 10 and 8 and it is very difficult for me to try and hold things together when he is always so moody/depressed? I don't know what to do..I can't help him in an way and I try to stay positive but I feel like he is giving up on life and us..He said yesterday that if he didn't have me or the kids he would go off all the medications and wouldn't care what happened..He was told if he did that he would probably die.
This has me very upset and down and I just feel so lost..I mean I married him for better or worse but Really?? this isn't what I signed up for...a life with a man who is depressed/angry all the time...I know..You can scold me...I'm probably being selfish but I am worried about my kids...They see him grumpy and moody all the time and I am tired of making excuses up for why he is that way...I realize he doesn't feel good..I don't either sometimes with my own medical issues but I still have to get up each day and get my kids out to school and cook,clean,laundry,grocery shop etc...too...
Do you think this is depression or self pity?
Any advice....
Laurel 