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Posted 9/15/2011 12:39 AM (GMT 0)
~ like your mind is racing  with things that you need/have to do but all you can do is walk in circles or totally do something else

~ Have a meltdown at the least opportune moment

~ don't recognize  yourself in the mirror when you are sobbing

~ feel alone and wanting to crawl in the corner

~ want the world to leave you alone

~want the best for your family, especially the kids so you need to change yourself so that they don't have those memories of you falling apart...(I have those memories of my mother and absolutely do now want that for my own)

~wonder why your significant other stays with you and puts up with it

~Suffers in silence because you are embarrassed or don't want to bother anyone or feel like you have talked about it so much that you feel that no one wants to hear it anymore

~ want to change but do not know how

I am seeing a dr and a therapist.  and on meds for anxiety and depression.  I also have fibro.  I have alot of stuff going on and I need to organize my day but can't get off my butt to do it.  I also have alot of weight to lose (80lbs) and working on my business and constantly busy and I have 2 young kids.  I have been sick, and I am in the process of having tons of dental work done (hopefully everything will be done in May).

I just feel horrible!

Please advise...

Lisa

Posted 9/15/2011 1:21 AM (GMT 0)
I have most of those feelings. My mind seems to race a lot. First I would try to stop it but it always stopped on the thing that makes me feel the worst. So now I let it run. Not the best but better than being consumed with grief. Going to th Dr tomorrow. Wooo Hooo. Been waiting a long time. Then my mind took me to, suppose she really can't help me? Got really shakey with that thought. Coming to this forum has helped me make it this far. As late as today I almost lost it again. I hold my fist together really tight which is a note for me to be strong and keep holding on. I cried but didn't let it take me all the way down. Its really tough. There have been lots of good suggestions here. I also tried writing things down. I hope you feel better soon.
Posted 9/15/2011 1:37 AM (GMT 0)
Try to get outside as much as possible and try to walk. It gives you energy. Try to learn meditation, it gives you peace. Writing things down is good. And breaking up your tasks. Especially with the fibro. Moving around is the best thing to do. If you don't, you will stiffen up and wont be able to do anything.

Start organizing things into lists of priority. Do what is most important. Take a lot of breaks to make it easier for you. Know that it will always be there, it isn't going anywhere so if you don't get it done right away it is no biggie. House work I mean. Did you say that you have a business? I know that is stressful in itself. Do you have help with that at all? Do you have employees?

You sure do have a lot on your plate and I think it is normal of you to feel overwhelmed. You may want to consider talking to a counselor to help you sort things out. When you see your doctor, let them know what you are going through. They may help you or hook you up with some counseling. It helps to sort things out.

I hope that you do feel better soon.

Take care, keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 9/15/2011 1:45 AM (GMT 0)
Karen~
I am starting a one woman "business" Not quite a business but making scrapbooks and cards and other paper crafts.
I do see someone but I don't have an appt until Oct 6th. I know that I need to make lists...I am the queen of lists (my ADD) but I feel so overwhelmed after making the list or find that I don't have the energy or get so distracted that the list is made after half the day is gone. After reading your post, I started to tear up and cry again. Goodness, I don't know what is going on. As I have told myself numerous times...Suck it up and just do it! Things can be alot worse!
Posted 9/15/2011 1:46 AM (GMT 0)
PS...thanks for the advice! It does help! I am just emotional right now...and have such a neck and headache!
Posted 9/15/2011 2:20 AM (GMT 0)
Do you have a "bed buddy" (rice or barley bag)? I find that helps so much. I hold all of my tension in my neck and shoulders. That eventually gives me a headache. I got mine at Walmarts. In the pharmacy department.

Sucking it up and getting on with it, isn't always that easy. We have to take it slow. I had a floral business that I lost thanks to fibromyalgia. It was devastating. To say the least. But I just couldn't do it anymore. Sometimes we have to give some things up. But we can put more effort into the other things that we do. Living with fibro teaches us to take life one day at a time. Depression also overwhelms us and the only way to take that is one day at a time too.

I hope that you can get your thoughts in order and take this slowly. Try not to beat yourself up over the things that you cannot do. Like I say, they will be there tomorrow. But get your priorities figured out and pick what is most important to you. Then you can go with it.

I hope that this helps some. It is late and my mind isn't so good.

I hope that you have a good and painfree night.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen
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