Terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day

Hi.

I wrote my boyfriend a love letter last week. It was the first time I was saying "I love you". He got it on Thursday. He alluded to things I wrote in the letter, but we never talked about it outright.

I spent Saturday night with my boyfriend. We went out with some friends for drinks and everything was fine. Actually, it was great. He was being very attentive without being anti-social, and it was really a good night. We came back to my place and crashed. In the morning, I tried to broach the "I love you" topic. He freaked out and told me that "it was too strong" a statement. Now I don't know what to do because I feel like I scared him off. I wasn't expecting him to automatically say it back, but it hurt a lot more than I thought it would hearing his reaction to my saying it.

I'm on Wellbutrin and Abilify and I feel like I shouldn't be flying off the handle like this. Sundays are always bad for me, but I really feel awful today. I don't know what to do. What do you do when the person you love doesn't love you back? He does loving things for me, but can't say "I like you" let alone "I love you". I don't know. I'm just really sad and since he left I've felt incredibly lonely.

I'm so depressed.

He just may need a little more time...give him that and maybe call and say hello to him tomorrow...
but don't bring it up, let him bring it up next....Guys do have a hard time with saying things...
Keep hope, and many well wishes to you....

Hello, Blue Moon 878,

I remember a movie I once saw with Paul Newman as the star who was befriended by a lady who fell in love with him. She told him that she loved him, and he looked at her rather quietly and said, "do you need the words?"  She responded, "Yes, very much, and if you ever say them I'll never let you take them back." That struck a chord with me for some reason, and I never forgot it.

Maybe some men are like that; the words don't mean as much to them as the behavior does. That really is the truth in some ways. Behavior speaks far more loudly about who and what one is than words. If he's kind to you, attentive, and caring, that's part of love, if the behavior is genuine.

It could be that.

Hope you find that he can be honest with his feelings and let you know how it is with him, too.

Take care.

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