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Posted 2/19/2012 10:42 PM (GMT 0)
I work at a private hospital and was recently promoted to lead receptionist. I love my job and feel that I work really hard. Am organised, good at it and deserve the step up but am finding it very hard in other areas.
My employer doesn't know that I have a history of depression ( I have never taken a single day off sick and am always happy and smiley at work) and am on medication for the rest of my life but when on it am generally fine.
I am finding that the side of the job where I have to tell staff what to do, criticise them, I suppose assert any authority very very hard.
No one would know this at work because I am very good at masking it and pretending to be fine but at weekends like today I just stay in bed and cry (pathetic I know) and can feel my depression getting worse.
I have tried reading various assertive training guides in my spare time and can see how i Should be but i just dont think its in my character to be like this. The trouble I take everything to heart.
I love my job and am good at it but would like advice if I should stand down as I was happy NOT being in charge even though as a few of my non work friends have said it's a shame as they feel I deserve the extra money as am so hardworking, am never off ill, care about my job and always give 110%
I am torn...... Any advice would be most appreciated x
Posted 2/19/2012 11:09 PM (GMT 0)
I just answered this post in A & P :-)
Posted 2/20/2012 12:06 AM (GMT 0)
There are ways to make suggestions to people without barking orders. I think you have the compassion to do that. I think you make a fine leader and I don't think you should give up the position quite yet. Give it a try. Learn to be assertive without sounding like you are talking down to people or anything. I am really sure you can do this.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 2/20/2012 11:51 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you so much for your kind advice. I going to give it another 3 months (has been 3 already) and see how it goes. Best wishes C X
Posted 2/20/2012 1:48 PM (GMT 0)
I am glad that you are going to try another three months. If you can't do it, so be it, but it never hurts to try. I think you will find your nitch in this and do well. Keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 2/20/2012 2:53 PM (GMT 0)
When I was a manager of quite a few people, I always worded my commands in a request, such as "would you please get another tray of biscuits?"-they all knew it was an order, but couched in respectful way, I also told them my first employee meeting, "I am not here as your friend, but your manager. It is not important to like me, but please respect me. If you take care of the business, I will take care of you" and I would back up my good employees all the way, by larger raises and defending them to upper management, good shifts.

I guess what I am trying to say is I tried to be the kind of manager that I wanted to work for, would respect

You got that job on your own merits, you earned it. my firstboss job, I was afraid to delegate or give orders, but that comes with time and you and your employees come to know what is expected of you and them.

I think they habe the right person for the job but like everything, there is a learning curve. I wish you good luck...

Maggie
Posted 2/21/2012 12:44 PM (GMT 0)
Congratulations on your promotion :)

If you find yourself crying a lot, maybe it's because you're due for an adjustment in meds? That is not to say that your job isn't stressful, but it could be a contributing factor given that you have a history of depression.
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