Overwhelmed and Frusturated

Cloudy30

Regular Member

Joined : Apr 2005

Posts : 72

Posted 4/17/2005 9:31 PM (GMT 0)

Today I feel overwhelmed and frusturated. I am trying to get so many things done that I don't know where to start. It really just makes me want to sleep or just shut down I guess they are one in the same. Of course hindsite is twenty twenty as I have overcommitted myself at work and in two of my grad classes and I just want to say I give up --- all of this achievement stuff is for the birds-- but that voice inside let's me know that it is not acceptable to quit or to give myself a break. When I put it down on paper it is so stupid but if I give myself a little break I know I will come down hard on myself because in the back of my mind it is important to me. It is what I am used to. This always happens when I come close to finishing something. I am close to finishing my Teaching English of Other Languages Endorsement and my Master's. I also teach full time...... Not a life crisis just need to take some time to breathe maybe shed some pity tears for me and just do one thing toward completing my task.

I guess I want my priorities to be more than this and I am just becoming ultimately aware of it. Sometimes I want everything to change all at once but that is not how life works.... Okay thanks for listening I just needed a empathetic ear --- I got to keep reminding myself that it will get better.

Thanks

AlwaysRosie

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Joined : Jan 2005

Posts : 8616

Posted 4/18/2005 1:47 AM (GMT 0)

Cloudy,

You speak for many here when you say that you are over-committed. I think most of us (in this forum) are 'people pleasers'. My husband helped me see how overcommitted I was and I finally learned how to say no. I actually get more respect now than I did when I was a 'yes' person. Even at work, I got more respect when I set clear boundaries and realistic expectations for myself. I gave notice that I could come in early, but not stay late.

Cloudy, it sounds like you have two full-time jobs. School is full time and so is work. If you don't speak up for yourself no one else will. (BTW, I was always committed to getting 4. average in college and it turns out that there is no kudos out in the world for that. It is a self-satisfaction, but at the expense of a whole lot of energy)

I think lots of us end up in a tail spin by over committing and not being able to say "sorry, but NO, I can't" .

Blessings!

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