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Posted 7/20/2012 2:38 PM (GMT 0)
Yesterday my best friend told me he couldn't be my friend anymore. This kid has been one of my best friends for three or four years now, his girlfriend has always had jealousy towards me and has been trying to get him to stop hanging out with me since day 1. I've never done anything wrong to make her not like me. I've only ever tried to be her friend and she stabbed me in the back. He said we couldn't talk anymore because I "don't support their relationship" wen the only people that don't have a problem with this girl are her family. I don't want to loose my best friend but, at the same time I feel there is nothing I can do to make this right. Am I right? Or should I fight back?
Posted 7/20/2012 2:43 PM (GMT 0)
I wouldn't push the issue. I would wait and see what happens. Getting in the middle of somebody else's relationship only causes the two of them to both get mad at you. So don't be put in the middle.

Good luck with this.

I hope it works out for the best.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 7/20/2012 3:00 PM (GMT 0)
I thought so....Im so tired of all the people who say they care for me just throwing me away like a ragdoll. All I do is war I can to help people and no matter what I do it always blows up in my face. I never tried to come between them in any way shape or form, he doesn't even kno how I actually feel about this chick. But I'm always the person in the wrong no matter what. Im always at fault even when I'm not. Idk how much longer I can go on this way.
Posted 7/20/2012 3:04 PM (GMT 0)
I don't think you are always wrong. He may have to learn the hard way if she is not the one for him. But try to let that happen on it's own. You don't want to lose a good friend. Eventually it may be you with him. Let the chips fall where they may...

It sounds lilke you are struggling with more than just this. Maybe you will want to talk about it.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 7/20/2012 3:10 PM (GMT 0)
It really just seems that my life is falling to pieces around me and there's nothing I can do to stop it. Everyday just gets worse and worse. I've developed a drug addiction over the past few months. No one knows about it but honestly getting high is the only thing keeping me sane. I just feel like I am literally loosing my mind. I have no motivation to do anything unless I'm high, I don't know what to do with myself.
Posted 7/20/2012 4:21 PM (GMT 0)
Maybe that means you need some type of medication. Are you taking anything now that is prescribed? We can't discuss illegal drugs here or drug abuse. I hope you can understand that. But feel free to email me if you would like to discuss it. Maybe I can help you to feel better. I don't know.

Try to take life one day at a time. That is the only thing you can do right now. Maybe get treatment, or call a crisis or addiction line. Don't hesitate to email me if you need to talk about this. I can at least listen.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 7/20/2012 6:07 PM (GMT 0)
I understand. What is your email address?
Posted 7/20/2012 7:58 PM (GMT 0)
To get to my email address, click on my name "getting by" at the side of my post. It will take you to my profile, and in it is my email address. Administration doesn't advise posting it on the forum, because anybody could see it. But being it is in my profile, only members can see it. I would be more than happy to write to you and try to help you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 7/21/2012 1:53 AM (GMT 0)
Thank u Karen. I realty need someone I can talk to. I've got so much going on I don't know how to handle things.
Posted 7/24/2012 7:16 PM (GMT 0)
I know how you feel. I have 2 best friends and they both are in tricky relationships. My one friend, let's call her "Laura" is in a fake relationship with a guy who cheated on her, had pictures on his phone a month after they fixed things of another girl. When someone is in love, no one can stop them. Distance yourself, if they weren't meant to be, they won't last. He will realize how much of a good friend he lost, and notice his girlfriends jealous and controlling ways.

You are not wrong, you are you, and his girlfriend can't accept that, its jealousy. Don't feel you did anything wrong because you didn't. I've lost so many friends who were my best. Its life and it is sad.

You will find someone as well. Learning to accept and trust in a relationship is the most important thing, so it shows you how much people are willing to throw people away to use for their own benefit.

Stay strong, FL
Posted 7/26/2012 1:56 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Shellygibbs,

We can't advertise here so I took one word out of your post. There are many people that suffer from this. Sweating... I would look up on the internet and see what you can find. I am sorry it is making you depressed.
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