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 Being depressed is never having to say we're sorry?????? I think not. I believe that if someone hurts your feelings or says something unkind, we have the right to respond in our own way. What's better...keeping your mouth closed or telling a person how you really feel when you know you're gonna get the cold hard truth. The answer? If you don't want your feelings hurt, stay neutral. When I was a kid my mother used to say to me, "If you don't want to answer, just say I-DON-NO. This way you are not lying, nor are you breaking a trust.

  

I wish I'd read this before I sent the email I just wrote. Inside, I know when things are my fault, and I am surprisingly alright with admitting that publicly. But, whenever I attempt to express my feelings, the words always come out wrong. I didn't want to accuse the person I emailed, but rather just inform them of what was going on in my head. I don't think it came off that way. I asked a friend for some advice and he told me something I'm still trying to figure out: he says it is alright to care, just don't get attached. Is there really a difference? And my question for you (anyone, really!) is how do you really stay neutral in a situation in which you are a side?

when i'm attacked i find it hard to admit my faults ;; but if i am approuched in a nice way i would propably admit it...