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Posted 10/24/2012 1:28 PM (GMT 0)
Hi,

I suffer from excruciating dissociative anger. My psychiatrist has analyzed it as depresion, and I am on anti-depressants. I have got a lot of relief. I am changing my psychiatrist because of logistics issue.

After joining this forum, I realize that maybe I need a therapist as well. What type of therapist do I need.

These are the two issues -

1. Since age 12, I feel irrational fear. At that age, I felt that every small building column had a small, 6-inch dwarf waiting to hurt me. I would not cross a column without checking out - sometimes 2/3 times

2. My mom insisted that I suppress feelings to be strong. The amount of suppression is probably the greatest in the world! I'll give two examples. Her (my moms) father lost his job. He did not even look for another job! He said proudly - "I am not like other people who cry when they lose their job. I am brave and sit at home!" Her (my moms) uncle started a mom-and-pop store and failed. He said "I dont cry when my business collapses as others do. I sit at home!!"

I know this sounds extreme - but its true! And my mom would give me those examples proudly. Any expression about disappointment was brutally ridiculed (she was facing her own issues). I just dont know how to handle feelings. I learnt. I leart to cry, but do not know how to stop!!

Will Therapy Help? What type??

Thanks

 

Posted 10/24/2012 1:42 PM (GMT 0)
Your psychiatrist would know what is best for counseling. There are many types of therapy I am sure. It sounds like you might be a little ocd. Nothing wrong with that. It can be worked out. There is dbt and cbt for counseling that I know of. But there are probably more than that. Talk to your psychiatrist and see what is best for you. We are all different and have different experiences.

Best wishes,

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/24/2012 2:05 PM (GMT 0)
Shringarey,

that little dwarft must be might powerful to be able to hurt you at 6 inches. Sounds like trauma, doesn't it?

Even as a kid, you knew somethings was not right about what was being told to you. A lot of us go through this, it is what causes the OCD and other things we must deal with now.

Any therapist worth their salt will be able to handle your case if you are honest with them.

I am sorry that you have to face these things, facing them is half the battle though, processing is the rest, so you will soon be well.

Hang in there. !

Wishing you peace on your journey

Trina
Posted 10/24/2012 3:08 PM (GMT 0)
I want to ask a question to you - I am using the anonimity of the web for this. While I have been battling my mental health problems for over a decade, I started digging up on my past. There were many many false beliefs that I was fed with, and I have worked through and transcended quite a few of them. In my remembering my past, I remember a certain experience. Please let me know what you think.

I must have been 7/8 years. I was in my mother's fathers house. I was sleeping on the bed. My uncle, (mama's cousin) started using his finger and encircling my nipples. I remember being excited and asking him to do it again. I remember this hapening once.

I do not feel anything about this memory. I feel no emotion other than slight embarassment. However, is it possible that this can be called child abuse? Is it possible that this is the trauma? I am scared that there cud be things I DONT remember.

Please help. Confused.

Posted 10/24/2012 4:11 PM (GMT 0)
YES! This is child abuse! You most likely don't feel anything because you are numb.

Please, find a therapist, before anymore memories pop. I know, I have repressed memories, it is much safer with a therapist.

Stay safe. Start a journal if you don't do it know, it is a safe what to get feeling out.

Trina
Posted 10/24/2012 5:15 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you BNotAfraid,

Paradoxically, right now I am feeling afraid. Yes - I will go to a therapist. I was fed with all sorts of crazy beliefs by my mother (some she picked from her father, some she got due to lifes battles). The beliefs were -

a) It is better to be straight faced and not cry - a guy who cries and tries again is worthless

b) Only bad people make money. Honest people are poor.

c) Dont think of sex. Dont think of girls. It will ruin you.

d) All males are evil. You are a male - hence you are evil.

e) You should always please me (her). If your behaviour upsets me, you are bad.

Ypu may not believe me, but she has always told me that an uncle of ours was crooked. Only when I grew up I realized that WE CHEATED HIM!!! I kjnow this sounds crazy, but I swear it is true!!!

I have never seen her crying - but never even trying!!! I worked through all this. I worked through a lot of emotional/financial abuse/manipulation.

Now I find sexual abuse too! Is this for real? I am dazed!!! Really dazed!!!

Is this common? Or am I an extreme exception? I want to know.

 

Posted 10/24/2012 6:01 PM (GMT 0)
This is becoming more and more common. You are not an extreme exception.

I think you need to try and relax. The mind is a powerful thing. It will block things out until you are ready to deal with them. If they are there. I highly suggest you inquire about therapy and go from there. Don't let this overwhelm you.

When we are young and impressionable and are told things over and over, then that is all we know. So we believe these things to be truth. It will take a little time for you to relearn things. Don't be hard on yourself. Just take things as they come. We can relearn, I have. And there are many of us here who have been through what you have. Take this one day at a time. Don't let it scare you. You have control over your thoughts.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/25/2012 2:39 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks. I feel hopeful. Thank you all. I'll let you know how this proceeds.

 

Posted 10/25/2012 4:54 PM (GMT 0)
Shingeray,

Karen gave you the advice I was going to type.

I will add this for you. My mother would abuse me, then make me write letters to God for forgiveness. In later years, she became "Nun-like" and would lecture me whenever possible about the evils of men touching me. All the while, my father was abusing me and she knew it.

I repressed these memories for 27 years.

You will get through this, first step is to breathe; deep breaths when you feel overwhelmed. Second step is to get a therapist as soon as you can. Call your doctor and tell them what is going on. They will not laugh at you and it is kept confidential they can help find a therapist for you.

There is more compassion in this world than we could ever believe.

I am so sorry you have to deal with this, remember they are just memories and can not hurt you anymore.

Stay strong, keep posting and lets us know how you are doing, we care.

Trina
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