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Posted 12/20/2012 12:42 AM (GMT 0)
I'm really tired of being sad.. I feel so hopeless all the time, when I'm not crying I feel dead. I show signs of many disorders including bipolar depression and schizophrenia.
I really don't know how to describe how I feel I just feel so different from other people, but the thing is I can't get help.
I am underage and still living with my parents (maybe I'm not depressed maybe I'm just being a teenager?)
If I bring this subject up to my parents and ask them if I can get professional help, they will tell me I'm wrong and nothing is wrong with me.
I know it's only because they don't want to believe it's true but I've been dealing with this and hiding it for years. I just want help.
How do I bring this up?
Posted 12/20/2012 1:43 AM (GMT 0)
Have you talked to anybody at your shcool? How do you know that you have the diagnosis that you have? Just by reading? I would try to talk to a school counselor or your family doctor. Be open and honest with your parents. Let them know that you are concerned about your mental health.

I hope that you can talk to them. It would be the best thing to do. Maybe print off some information that you have found and have them read it.

Best wishes.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 12/20/2012 2:04 AM (GMT 0)
I know things I read aren't always legitamate and I am not taking anything I read as an actual diagnosis

I have considered talking to a school counselor and maybe I will I'm just worried about bringing this topic up with them

Thank you for your insight!
Posted 12/20/2012 3:27 AM (GMT 0)
I think you have a very good idea there. They will help you. And they will help you talk to your parents if you need them to. I started counseling young and have been going all of my life. It really helps me.

You probably have a very good idea with what is going on with you and your mental health. I am glad taht you are taking steps to help yourself.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 12/20/2012 3:44 AM (GMT 0)
That calms my worries a little bit..
I really don't have the support I need in terms of friends/family so I really appreciate all of this
This is my first day so I'm kind of in shock at the amount of support there is here
Posted 12/20/2012 5:03 AM (GMT 0)
I use to have mild forms of depression back when I was 14. my parents saw it as a teenage hormonal act. Though at that time I lost almost 40 pounds from starving myself (I'm a big guy). I went to go see the school counselor because I was concerned about my health. they really do help. you should definitely go see your school counselor. after just one to two chat sessions it seems like it's already getting better.. well for my cause anyways. They will get you the help you need.

Post Edited (Konner) : 12/19/2012 10:06:57 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 12/20/2012 6:15 AM (GMT 0)
I myself and many of my friends have struggled with that exact question. To me, the easiest thing was to "go over there head" and get what help I could before approaching them. They might be mad at first, but when they see that you're being serious they will be willing to help you out. School counselors are a great place to start because they have the training needed to help you and also to bridge the gap between you and your parents. Go as soon as you can. It can't hurt anything.
Posted 12/20/2012 6:35 AM (GMT 0)
My parents have seen a weight loss in me too konnor (30 pounds and I'm really not that big to start with)
My parents seem so distant and that I can't communicate with them...

I'm starting to reconsider the counselor... I'm very close with my ex boyfriend and I've grown pretty dependent on him. He's supported me through everything when no one else will and he still does. My parents can be pretty horrid sometimes and he makes me stand up for myself.

I feel like I need his support but he just told me he refuses to support me in getting help.... He says he "doesn't want another person changing who I am", that "counselors tell you how to run your life", that I need to find happiness on my own...
I've tried this for years
But how can I face my parents without him?
Posted 12/20/2012 1:15 PM (GMT 0)
I don't think that the statements that he made was fair. Counselors can't change who you are inside. They help you to find out who you are. They dont' tell you how to run your life. Maybe he is afraid that they will get you to move on without him. Let him know that isnt' so. As long as he is a good person to you, the counselor will encourage your relationship. It is up to you if you get help. It doesn't sound like your boyfriend is helping you when he refuses to support you getting help. That is just plain wrong...

Keep trying and keep posting. I like your member name. It is cute...

Hugs, Karen
Posted 12/20/2012 1:30 PM (GMT 0)
Ill keep arguing it with him. I really do want to get better.
He himself has been diagnosed with schizophrenia so some of his personalities tell me to get better and others tell me to stop.
He's already moved on- apparently he found a girl "just like him" and I guess she understands how he feels, he's always rubbing it in my face.
I've decided to talk to my school counselor today

And thanks.. I couldn't think of a creative "unique" name :P
Posted 12/20/2012 2:21 PM (GMT 0)
I am sorry he has moved on. But you are probably better off without him in your life discouraging you to get better. Though I know that it hurts badly. Keep taking care of you. Keep posting because it does help. I am glad you decided to see your school counselor. That could really help you. Let us know how it goes. If things don't work out, we have resources that might help you. Take care of you. That is most important right now. It sounds like the boyfriend is a little immature for you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 12/20/2012 8:17 PM (GMT 0)
So i never got to talk to a counselor today..
The counselors aren't accepting anyone until after christmas holiday- 2 weeks from now

I had an emotional breakdown in AP world history. We were taking our midterm finals and i just couldn't concentrate. I can never remember anything we've learned and all i wanted to do was turn in that test and sleep. I started crying over a test..

Im hoping my 2 weeks off will help- I'm going on a really fun vacation, so maybe a stress relief will help:D

I decided to confide in my friends today._.
I told them everything thats been going on with me lately and how I'm seeking help. It was scary, but they reacted with so much love that i know they won't let me back out.

I told my ex that I'm doing this with or without his support and if he decides not to, then he needs to leave my life.
I can see he's trying to accept this
Posted 12/20/2012 9:35 PM (GMT 0)
glad that you confided in your friends, you need support.

Your ex really should not be a deciding factor. This is about you
and what you want to do to feel better. He can not help you do that at this point.

take care for the next two weeks and remember to be totally honest at your therapy session.

Stay strong.

Trina
Posted 12/20/2012 9:50 PM (GMT 0)
I am glad that you are trying to get help. Don't give up or back out. In the meantime, here is a site that might help you until you can get into counseling.

http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome

Hugs, Karen
Posted 12/20/2012 11:04 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Trina, my fear is that whenever I'm confronted about my feelings and I'm forced to explain- my mind completely blanks and I go numb. I can't explain my feelings but when others say what they feel I completely relate.
Whenever I'm feeling "south pole" I'm writing what I'm thinking and I'm going to give that to my counselor- maybe they can understand it.

Thank you Karen for that link, I've been checking it out and it seems to have potential.
I really appreciate y'all's help and advice, thanks for listening!
Posted 12/21/2012 12:55 AM (GMT 0)
Dear Unique

I'll never forget the day my 15 yr old daughter came and laid down next to me and tearfully told me she was tired of being sad all the time, so angry and irritable all the time. I felt so grateful that my girl was being honest with me. We got counseling and meds as soon as possible. We never wanted to put her on meds but we saw great strides between counseling and meds. I thought all the ups and downs were hormonal too until she told me it was more than that.

I am so glad you had friends to confide in. Oftentimes, we try to hide our true feelings from those we love. But being honest with yourself and others is the best route towards getting better.

You sound like a terrific young lady and hope you can break that communication barrier w/ your folks and see a counselor very soon.

Please be kind to yourself and keep posting

Love

Mags

Posted 12/21/2012 7:22 AM (GMT 0)
Unique,

I hope you find the strength to talk to your school counselor as soon as you can. I never knew of that resource when I was in high school and maybe it would have spared me the next 30 years of hiding my depressing feelings. Today we have some many more resources available, and needing help and getting help is so much more accepted!

I think finding some support now will help you build better life-long habits and really enrich your life.

Please know your feelings are ok, whatever they are, but they don't have to be acted on - they are just feelings, not facts, not commands or imperatives, they will pass. Try to find something to smile or laugh about everyday.

Hugs & very sincere best wishes,
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